This week, my just-turned four-year-old son, Ben, brought me his wooden “treasure box” and asked me what else he should put in it. He showed me its present contents: a photo of me, his Dad, and his brother; a necklace he had gotten from a gum ball machine; and a little Lego man (who was armed, of course). I stared into the box, and responded, “Let’s put this moment in there.”
These days, I am trying hard not to miss moments like these, even though sometimes it is really difficult. On a regular basis, we have to take Ben to two, if not three, medical specialists, make sure he drinks this really awful tasting “medical food” every day, give him reflux medication three times a day and specially prepare each of his meals and snacks because of his food allergies and associated reflux. That’s just when everything is going well (let’s save the discussion about the times when he doesn’t feel well for a future blog).
It doesn’t take much for infant and childhood reflux to become a chronic illness (even if your child eventually outgrows it). During this time of caring for a high-needs child, it is really important (albeit difficult some times) to remember that life is made up of only moments, even if your child does not feel well.
Susan B. Anthony said it most eloquently when she said, “Sooner or later we all discover that the important moments in life are not the advertised ones, not the birthdays, the graduations, the weddings, not the great goals achieved. The real milestones are less prepossessing. They come to the door of memory unannounced, stray dogs that amble in, sniff around a bit and simply never leave. Our lives are measured by these.”
Learn more about Tracy's second edition of her book, Making Life Better for a Child With Acid Reflux. This edition brings in the voices of six medical experts who provide up-to-date knowledge about acid reflux in babies and children.
Published On: June 05, 2006