My little boy Avin was born full term (although 3 weeks early) and was barely 5 pounds. After doing really well for the first month he gained 3 more pounds. The ped was very happy. Soon after he started showing symptoms of turning away from bottle, taking very small feeds, pain, discomfort, back and neck arching. I brought it to my pds attention but he just dismissed it as "colic"..."your son will grow out of this, he is gaining weight and he is fine..".
Well the weight gain slowed down and my kid started refusing the bottle and breast as well. Eventually, we started sleep-feeding him. If he stays awake, he will go hungry for hours but will not accept a bottle or breast. It was depressing for me when my child started refusing to be comforted by me. He feared that I would breast-feed him. He looked away from me every time I kissed or comforted him.
I changed my ped. The new one put him on Zantac and reassured me that "everything will be fine. Sure enough there was some relief. It seems that he has silent GERD and therefore the first ped missed all the signs of acid-reflux. He regurgitates and spits up but not much vomiting. He is very fussy in the evenings but sleeps well on an elevated wedge. Well, after the Zantac he stopped being afraid of me and I stopped nursing him too. Nowadays I just play with him, read him books, comfort him and cuddle him. I make him smile and giggle. We sometime go out but that is very rare. We have to work around his feeding and sleeping schedule.
I have to mention here that I have a Ph.D. in Biological Science, I have recovered from severe GERD, and I have been on Prilosec in the past; yet I have been ignorant enough that I didn't pursue this matter more seriously. I have stopped working, hired part-time help, and I am trying to comfort, sleep and feed my child. My husband is a wonderful father too and is using maximum flexibility in his job too. Some days are better and some are depressing. Sometimes my son will feed from me and sometimes he just needs his daddy.
Eventually my sister in law mentioned to me about her friends who went through the same ordeal; their sleep-feeding baby had to be tube fed because of his severe aversions. Fortunately, the doctors intervened on time and everything is wonderful but it was a long and hard journey for these parents. It was a wake-up call for me. I first called-up these brave parents who just happened to be wonderful folks. They were extremely willing to talk openly, answer questions, help us and even pray for us. They gave me all the information that they had, told me that sleep feeding is ok but not normal, and insisted that I need to get in touch with a ped-GI right away. The next day I insisted that my ped put me in touch with a GI. I also found a feeding therapist in the area and scheduled an appointment with her as well.
Unfortunately, the GI clinic where I went turned to be completely useless. The RN who saw us dismissed us by saying that this is not too bad and prescribed two doses of Prilosec (PPI) and asked us to discontinue 2 of the 3 Zantac doses. My poor baby was miserable for three days but the GI's clinic never returned my call. Finally my ped asked me to put him on two doses of prilosec (4 mg each) and two doses of Zantac (1 ml each i.e 30 mg total). He has been doing well for the last two days on it. I asked my ped for a second ref. and will soon be seeing another GI.



Oh Sonja, I am sending virtual hugs to you today. You and your family have been on such a difficult journey together. I hope that you continue to work with the medical team and find some success with a combination of the medical treatment and the feeding team.
There has been a great deal of discussion on the HealthCentral/Acid Reflux Connection about sleep feeding. I have written several blogs about sleep feeding and I would be happy to talk with you further about this special feeding method. I hope some other parents of sleep feeders will offer their support and ideas too.
We are here to listen and offer our support. Let us know how we can help.
Best wishes,
Jan Gambino
The Reflux Mom
Dear Jan,
Thank you so much for your kind words. I read all your posts about sleep feeding-- I am going to try all those tricks, slowly, one at a time. Yes, it does help feeding him in a dark quiet room but we have not been quite successful at feeding him while he is awake. Music helps too. He can take an ounce or so but then he abandons the bottle.
Have any of your readers or anyone you know been successful at overcoming this phase? We don't mind if it takes time and lot of hard work-- we are prepared for it, but is there light at the end of this dark tunnel?
Regards,
Sonja
Hello Sonja,
Slow and steady is good with sleep feeding. The parents, doctors and speech language pathologists I have talked to tell me that babies often move away from sleep feeding in the first year. There have been a few babies who sleep feed beyond that. It seems that as the diet moves away from all liquid to some solids and than solids, the baby gradually moves toward a more typical feeding pattern.
The speech language pathologists tell me it is important to have a feeding screening to rule out a swallowing problem or other oral motor pattern that makes feeding difficult. Often some sessions with a speech language pathologist or a feeding specialist (in conjunction with medical treatment-diet, medication, positioning) will make a big difference when a feeding problem is identified.
I know there is a lot to sort out. Rest assured that sleep feeding is a reasonable way to offer nourishment as you and Team Reflux work to help your little guy manage feedings. See if you can find the Share Posts started by AmyD about feeding your baby when asleep on this site. It was surprising how many parents were feeding their babies at night due to reflux and other related digestive/feeding issues.
We are here to listen and support you as you go about the often lonely job of sleep feeding by night while trying to figure out how to help him by day!
Keep in touch-ok?
Jan Gambino
The Reflux Mom
Dear Jan,
As I read your message tonight (11:35 PST) I cannot tell you how soothing your words are. It offers a ray of hope that I have been waiting for. It takes away the guilt that I may be inadvertently harming my child by sleep feeding him. I will read the post by AmyD, I did read several posts on this site about sleep feeding but it's like my brain has stopped processing and I don't remember whether it was the one by Amy. Although I know that the issue is not as uncommon as I first thought, I feel inadequate for giving-up on active feeding. I have one more question for you-- how can I purchase your book? I want to gain as much knowledge as I can from Doctors, experts and parents.
I read the book Colic Solved by Dr. Bryan Vertabedian. I am glad that I did because now I know that my kid falls in the classic "grey-zone". The ped as well as the ped GI seem to be slightly indifferent about my concerns. My child is losing weight--rapidly. I was surprised when the Ped-GI told us that if you leave the child fussy and hungry he will eventually accept the bottle. My mommy-instincts tell me otherwise. He also said that I should concentrate the formula in order to get the colories into my child-- actually that make Avin extremely uncomfortable. Sometimes I feel as though my kid has nausea. Dr. Vertabedian is great but I would like to know if he can refer me to anyone here in San Francisco Bay Area.
I will keep reading your posts. Any advice/tips are greatly appreciated.
Dear Sleepless in the Bay Area,
I am glad your world is a little less lonely now that you know others are sleepfeeding their babies too. Unfortunately many doctors are not familiar with this issue. I have been writing about it as much as possible and I hope to spread the word mom to mom.
I do have quite an extensive discussion of sleep feeding in my book. There is a link from this website to purchase the book or you can go directly to www.refluxmom.com. The book will be available on www.amazon.com in a few weeks.
Please email me privately on this site for ideas about finding a doctor in your area. You might want to do some research and see if there is a feeding team or speech language pathologist who specializes in feeding. I know a family in the bay area who found a wonderful practitioner. I will see about linking you.
Hang in there!
Jan Gambino
The Reflux Mom
Hi Jan,
Ok, I will contact you off-line. Thank you so much.
Regards.