It's Not Your Fault That Your Baby Has Acid Reflux

It’s not your fault that your baby has acid reflux.  It may seem obvious, but I hear moms taking the blame all the time. But really, it’s not your fault that your baby has acid reflux. And it can be very upsetting when we hear comments from friends, family and even the doctor that seem to blame you for “doing it wrong” and “causing” the spit up and crying.

Has anyone said to you:

·      Try this.

·      Try that.

·      My baby never did that.

·      It must be your milk.

·      The formula will cause that.

·      You need to let her cry it out.

·      You need to show her who is in charge.

·      She will eat when she is hungry enough.

·      She won’t starve herself.

·      You need to hold her more.

·      You need to put her down.

·      You must have eaten the wrong foods when you were pregnant.

Remember:

·      It’s not your fault that the baby won’t stop crying. Reflux is very painful and crying is her way of communicating that message.

·      It’s not your fault that the baby won’t go to sleep. It is hard to turn off the pain and discomfort.

·      It’s not your fault that she fusses when you put her down. She feels safe and comfortable in your arms. She feels your efforts to comfort her and ease the pain.

·      It’s not your fault that she wakes up every hour all night long. Just talk to an adult with reflux-they will tell you the same thing. Reflux causes frequent night waking.

·      It’s not your fault that she spits up or vomits the breast milk or formula. My daughter can reflux on water. Any food or liquid is sure to backwash and come back up again.

·      You didn’t cause reflux by anything you ate during pregnancy.

Your baby has reflux-a condition that causes poor eating and sleeping and may lead to more fussing and crying. But it isn’t your fault.