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12 Things High School Students with ADD/ADHD Want Their Teachers to Know

Eileen Bailey Health Guide August 05, 2007
  • August 1 has always been the date that I begin to prepare for the upcoming school year with my children. I begin reviewing with them math concepts, give them worksheets to complete and gather up the school supplies. During this month of August, I will be preparing the Health Central ADHD site for back to school. I will be writing articles on ADHD in education, for parents, for students and for teachers. I hope that you will find the information over the coming weeks helpful in preparing your students for the upcoming school year.

     

    I have decided to begin the month with one of the most popular features I have had. This list has been compiled by teens with ADHD. They have kindly shared with me what is important to them and what they find most frustrating in working with teachers and parents. (Editing has been done to improve clarity.) Throughout my son's high school career, I have copied this list countless times, giving each of his teachers insight into his behaviors and feelings at the beginning of the school year. Teachers, parents and administrators around the country have asked numerous times for permission to reprint the following list to share with others. At the bottom of this posting are links to email this page, please feel free to email this to any other parents and teachers that may benefit from this. There is also a link to print this page. Share this page with all that you may feel it will help.

     

    12 Things Teens with ADHD Would Like Their Teachers to Know

     

    1) I forget things, even important things. There is a myth that states, "If it is important enough, you will remember it." Please understand that this is a myth, my memory may not work the same as yours. Just because I forget does not mean that it doesn't matter. I am not trying to be a smart alec or arrogant when I say "I forgot." I really do forget.

    2) I am not stupid. I may sometimes lose my place during your class or take a few minutes to get my thoughts together before speaking, but I am not stupid. ADHD does not have anything to do with intellect.

    3) Please be patient if I ask the same question many times or ask too many questions. I am not trying to be arrogant, I am trying to understand. I am trying to comprehend and I am trying to remember what you have said.

    4) I really do want to do good. For many years, I have struggled with schoolwork. It is frustrating for me. I want to pass your class, I want to do my best, I want to feel good about the work I have done.

    5) I do complete my homework. I often lose papers, leave my homework at home or in my locker. I often don't know where my homework is when it is time to hand it in. But I do complete it. Loose papers are the most difficult to keep track of, if it is possible to complete my homework in a notebook, I will be able to keep track of it better.

    6) ADD is not an excuse, I should not use it as one, and neither should you. ADHD is a real disorder. It causes me to forget things, to be impulsive, to act without thinking, to lose track of my belongings, to be inattentive and sometimes it causes me to process information I little more slowly. I do not like being different and would very much like to be "normal." I do not like to be made fun of for being different.

  • 7) I need help to succeed. This is sometimes very hard for me to accept. I do not like having to ask for help. Sometimes, asking for help makes me feel stupid. Please understand this and be patient. Please sometimes offer your help without my having to ask. Please understand that needing help makes me feel inadequate and that I may resent you asking. That doesn't mean that I do not want or need your help.

    8) If you notice me acting in inappropriate ways, please talk with me in private. Please do not talk to me in front of the class. This is humiliating. Please do not insult me or call attention to my differences or weaknesses in front of other students.

    9) I don't like having "special accommodations" in the classroom. Sometimes they are needed to help me succeed and do well. But that doesn't mean that I like it. Please don't call attention to any special treatment in front of other students. Please do not draw attention to my ADHD.

    10) Detailed explanations of your expectations will help me. I work best when I know exactly what you expect from me. I will do best if your expectations are in writing so that I can refer back to them if needed. The more detailed your classroom and class work plan is, the better I will do. Knowing what to study and how to study will help me when taking tests. Knowing how you expect projects to be completed will help me to do a good job.

    11) Learning about ADHD is one of the best ways to help me. Read about ADHD, how to teach children with ADHD and talk with parents and other teachers to learn as much as you can. Understanding and learning about ADHD will help me to do better in your class.

    12) Although I have ADHD, I am not ADHD. I am a person; I have feelings, hopes and expectations. I have needs. I want to be liked and accepted. I want to feel good about myself. All of this is important to me. Sometimes I act out to hide my embarrassment or shame. This does not mean that something is not important; on the contrary, it means that it is very important and I am hiding my disappointment that I failed.