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Suggestions for IEPs or Section 504s

Eileen Bailey
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Eileen Bailey began her quest for information on ADHD fourteen years...

Eileen Bailey

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When developing an IEP (Individualized Educational Plan) or Section 504 Agreement for your child, parents are often left sitting at the meeting, overwhelmed by the entire process. They many times miss the opportunity to speak up for their child, to request services and accommodations that may create ...
  1. another adaptation
    vmd
    Tuesday, March 03, 2009 at 05:30 PM

    my son has a very sensitive nose. the lunchroom bothered him. especially on taco day. The idea we came up with was a sweat band on his wrist, with a few drops  of vanilla flavoring he could smell.

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    re: another adaptation
    Anonymous
    Thursday, October 29, 2009 at 03:01 PM

    What a simple solution!  Good for you and your son.

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  2. Tips for parents of ADHD kids
    Teacher
    Monday, July 27, 2009 at 01:16 AM

    Most of the children I work with who have ADHD have have irresponsible parents who let them stay up late, watch TV, play video games incessantly, and eat junk food. 

     

    Try putting your kid to bed at 8:00, getting the TV out of their room, losing the video games, putting them into a SPORT after school, and feeding them healthy, whole foods.  You'd be surprised how the ADHD will disappear when good parenting appears. 

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    re: Tips for parents of ADHD kids
    Eileen Bailey
    Monday, July 27, 2009 at 12:06 PM

    It is a myth that poor parenting causes ADHD and that all children with ADHD just have not been disciplined.

     

    For further information

     

    Poor parenting does not cause ADHD

     

    Eileen

     

     

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    re: Tips for parents of ADHD kids
    Anonymous
    Tuesday, August 04, 2009 at 07:55 PM

    Unbelievable - my daughter is in bed by eight, eats a whole foods diet and will never have a tv in her room.  She also has an IQ of 135, at age 5 reads at a 3rd grade level and struggles with inattentiveness and impulsivity.  Medication and counseling have helped.  God help the kids you work with, because you are too ignorant to be of any use to them.

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    christine
    Tuesday, November 17, 2009 at 07:46 PM

    you go girl this women sounds like a fricken jerk;

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    re: Tips for parents of ADHD kids
    DebbieC
    Saturday, August 08, 2009 at 12:35 PM

    No wonder children with ADHD struggle in school with an educator as yourself.  Try some continuing education courses to help with your ignorance.  Having a child with ADHD is a constant discipline for the entire family.  Sending my sweet, intelligent daughter to a classroom such as yours adds frustration, dissapointment & a year long struggle.  Children with ADHD do need extra structure, discipline, patience and understanding.  Sometimes they just need a BREAK from the constrains of the structure in which teachers are required to teach.  They are also children with gifts you will never understand without educating yourself.  YOU should NOT be a teacher consuming tax payor or private monies with your lack of knowledge.  You should be ashamed of your statement.  My daughter sleeps 11 hours most nights, eats a generally homeade, healthy diet, plays little video games and never watches regular TV during school.  She is always in a sport for exercise and competes at a high level for her age.  She still requires 3-4 times the amount of work to get grades she is capable of getting .... why?  Because her brain is not equipped with the neuro transmitter connectivity required to put a list of simple tasks into completion.  She has to study ... she needs constant reminding of daily, routine tasks.  She needs extra time to complete chores, tasks, homework.  She will rarely get a perfect score on a spelling test despite her absolutely knowing every word, every bonus word, and the surprise bonus words because her brain is not made to finish the 20 plus spelling words.  Simply put ... she cannot finish a test that long.  Our entire family wishes we could take it all away!  You have no clue of the daily struggle I have as a parent of a child with ADHD.  I want to fiercly protect her from people like YOU!  People who do not understand how hard ADHD can be on the child and the family.  My daughter is a very hard worker.  She sweeter than every kid I know.  She is a talented artist and athlete.  She is super funny!  The kids in the neighborhood flock to our driveway to hang out with her.  If you were her teacher, you would miss all the GREAT things she has to offer because you have assumed children with ADHD are undisciplined, junk food eating tv watchers with parents that don't care.  YOU ... are WRONG!

     

    Debbie

    Parent of an 8 year old daughter with ADHD

    with a 7:00 pm bedtime!

     

     

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    Anonymous
    Sunday, August 09, 2009 at 05:33 AM

    Brava!!  Sadly, we are fighting an uphill battle against this kind of idiocy.  Blessings to you and your daughter.  Our teacher last year was always suggesting that I take more time off from work - but if I did that I would be a deadbeat mom who could not afford healthcare (luckily we didn't have homework thanks to Montessori school).  We were lucky if we got home by 6:00, and then she was rebounding from the medication and emotionally off the hook.  Now she is starting first grade public school and I am living in fear.  Somehow, in 2 hours, I am supposed to make a wholesome dinner, bath, homework, storytime and an 8:00 pm bedtime happen.  My school teacher friend thinks that if I request that her homework get done in the afterschool program they will think I am expecting them to do my job for me.  No, their job is to educate her, my job is to parent her (and I realize that will include some homework).  Yes, teachers have too much on their plate, but so do most working parents.

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    christine
    Tuesday, November 17, 2009 at 07:44 PM

    you are so right i agree with everything u say;

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    re: Tips for parents of ADHD kids
    Kathie
    Wednesday, October 07, 2009 at 11:51 AM

    You Teacher have yet amazed me once again. Do you live with a child who has ADHD? Do you know the daily struggle and frustrations of a parent and family trying to cope with all that is required to just get your child through one day? How dare you? I also don't want to hear how long you have been teaching and that you have had many adhd students throughout your years. Until you are treating your own child, you have no right to criticize anybody on how they parent. Your ignorance shines through in this post and thankfully you will never be in my son's life. I pray for the children who you affect everyday. You should be ashamed of yourself.

     

     

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    Anonymous
    Sunday, November 15, 2009 at 10:45 PM

    I did parent an ADHD child, and I teach them.  They thrive in my care, but MOST of the parents...notice I didn't say ALL...aren't doing their parts to control the illness.  My son took medicine, AND I did MY part!  Today he is a graduate student, thanks to the combination of medicine AND good parenting.  I speak from experience. 

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    christine
    Tuesday, November 17, 2009 at 07:40 PM

    sounds like u and this so called second grade grandparent have alot in common; i to teach adhd student and he is on meds. and we go for counsling 1x's a week and oh most import. guess what teacher lady i too do my part as a parent;good luck to all your students and may god bless their parents;

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    Anonymous
    Thursday, October 29, 2009 at 09:03 AM

    I am the step-mother to a 14 year old boy with ADD (inattentive type). I just want to say that I think many of you may be over-reacting to what this teacher has said. Perhaps s/he didn't use the most sensitive wording, and there have been studies to show that ADD/ADHD is not CAUSED by bad parenting... BUT, I think it can (and IS) exasperated by poor parenting. Not saying that any of you fall into that category, but it is happening out there to a lot of kids with ADD/ADHD.

     

    Bottom line, ADD/ADHD is genetic. Many of the parents of kids with ADD/ADHD suffer from the same problems. As a result, you end up with ADD/ADHD kids being parented by an ADD/ADHD parent. This is extremely challenging. In my situation, my step-son's mother has ADD/ADHD. It is harrowing when I know that when he goes with her that there will be even more challenges making sure that he has the proper structure needed to complete homework, pack his backpack properly for the next day, get to bed on time and not play hours of video games. And, it isn't because she's a bad parent. Its because she is dealing with the same problems herself and then having to try to deal with his problems too. Its overwhelming.

     

    So, I encourage all of you to think outside of YOUR box before you criticize others. This is happening to a lot of kids out there. Maybe not yours, but many.

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    christine
    Tuesday, November 17, 2009 at 07:43 PM

    if shes a teacher should she not know how to phrase things the right way??? it is your choice to stick up for her but to me she sounds like a real hillbilly; 

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    re: Tips for parents of ADHD kids
    Anonymous
    Thursday, October 29, 2009 at 03:19 PM

    Dear Teacher,

     

    Please leave your letter of resignation on the front desk...as a matter of fact why not just leave.  Are YOU a parent of a child with ADHD or any other type of disability.  Do you yourself have any disabilities...as aside from the obvious!  How DARE you lump every child with ADHD in one pile?  Are you the ADHD guru?  Do you REALLy believe that your "suggestions" are the solutions to the problem.  Not all children with ADHD benefit from the same things.

     

    As an EDUCATOR myself I am horrified that you could/would lay blame only on the parents.  Children with ADHD often have difficulty sleeping, therefore putting them to bed at 8:00 is not feasible.  TV and video games are often used to calm and center individuals with ADHD.   While diet can be a contributing factor with ADHD it is not the only factor.  Unfortunately finances often are a roadblock into effectively treating a child with ADHD.

     

    So before you jump all over parents claiming that "good parenting" would solve the issue keep in mind that there are MANY factors that contribute to the success and FAILURE of a student with ADHD.  Do YOU want to be part of the problem or do you want to be part of the possibe solution.

     

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    re: Tips for parents of ADHD kids
    christine
    Sunday, November 15, 2009 at 12:12 PM

    god help u; u sound like a real know it all?bet u are not a parent of a child with adhd?what state do u teach?hopefully not ohio because we do not need ignorant teachers like u here;parent of adhd/odd/ld 

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    Anonymous
    Sunday, November 15, 2009 at 10:41 PM

    You write like a second grader yourself.  Your child doesn't have a chance. 

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    christine
    Tuesday, November 17, 2009 at 07:35 PM

    what ever lady;happen to be in law field ;just pray to god that u do not live in ohio;and yes my child just like yours has every chance in the world to become whatever he may want to be; iam a grandmother who raised 3 adult children 2 of whom went to very good colleges and also became very productiove in todays world soooo ; now iam raising my grandson sooo; i will keep u in my prayers and hope some one shows u the way; cong. on your child;       

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    christine
    Tuesday, November 17, 2009 at 07:48 PM

    i totally agree not with teachers like you; hope you are 1 of a kind and live on a desert island somewhere;

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    re: Tips for parents of ADHD kids
    christine
    Sunday, November 15, 2009 at 12:18 PM

    by the way u sound like a very irresponsible teacher who knows very little about adhd;u are no dr. or prob.  even a parent so my advice to u would be to quit teaching and maybe try politics; sounds like u have very little knowledge u would fit right in ;

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    re: Tips for parents of ADHD kids
    Anonymous
    Sunday, November 15, 2009 at 10:37 PM

    I said MOST...not all!  And yes, I did rear an ADHD child, and he's getting a PHD now. I know what I'm talking about, and you need to stop whining and start parenting. 

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    re: re: Tips for parents of ADHD kids
    christine
    Tuesday, November 17, 2009 at 07:51 PM

    please tell me u do not live in ohio;maybe down south?? haha u hillbilly women; 

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