the idea of setting a monthly goal is great. recently I joined clutterers anonymous and it is a very valuable resource. I have learned that once you reach a goal it is important to stay vigilant about maintaining it as a strong habit.
Thanks, I am glad you found this helpful. I can tell you this is my adopted attitude for this year. A year in which I have not set any resolutions but have plans in the works to change my life for the better, both professionally and personally. I am really looking forward to seeing what I can accomplish through the year.
Eileen
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I like what Eileen has shared. I also want to remind everyone that ADHD is a challenge of boredom and engagement. Let's face the truth; most people with ADHD don't stick to their resolutions because they are not fun, interesting or easy to do. After all, who wants to spend their time losing weight, or being more organized, or paying the bills.
Of course those things are important but they don't get your brain going and they certainly don't support your ability to maintain the energy and effort it takes to change bad habits into good patterns.
I think the part about choosing the community you spend time with, on the other hand, could be the most engaging and interesting choice that could make a huge difference in your quality of life.
What would happen to your life and ability to change bad habits, if you hung out with people who supported you, who accepted the way you are, who acknowledged your strengths, who gave you unconditional love and support just because they appreciated who you are and wanted to see your greatness show up? How would your life be if you indentified the values that are in harmony with your heart and gave you a sense of purpose every day? What if you had a community of friends who were aligned with your values and supported your purpose? How do you think 2011 would be?
Sometimes, we make resolutions that are boring band-aids that only temporarily stop the bleeding when the source of the wound has not been identified. We were put on this earth to be with people, to help people, to love people. If you don't choose the right kind of people to spend time with, who either accept you or are aligned with similar character traits and values, when you do get together your ADHD challenges will not only show up, they might even immobilize you.
Instead of spending more time making choices ONLY about the problems and challenges, in your life, that often shut you down, how about beginning 2011 with a new story? A story, with a theme, that asks you to identify what's important to you. How do you want to be treated? What kinds of values and traits do you want the people you spend time with to exhibit on a daily basis?
I can tell you one thing if you make a 2011 commitment to identify what's important to you as a human being and choose to be surrounded with people who are respectful of you and love you for being you; I can guarantee 2011 will be a huge, positive turning point in your life. You will let the world know who you are and what's important to you as a respected and respectful person with ADHD. The ADHD is what you have, it is not who you are! When are you going to inform people about your authentic "you"?
Wishing every one a most joyful and fulfilling New Year!!!
DG
David
Thanks so much for adding to what I have said. Finding supportive people to surround me is exactly what I plan to do this year.
Eileen
Eileen, It is totally my pleasure; and the feeling in terms of support is mutual.
I am looking forward to being part of what you have created. It is truly an important place for people with ADHD to have a reliable reosource they can go to
to answer many of the confusing things that show up and hold them back. I believe this site is already a source for moving so many individuals with ADHD forward.
DG