ADHD in Relationships: The Experts Speak Out
Over the years that I have been writing about ADHD, adults have written to me about problems they are having in their relationship. Sometimes, their spouse feels the partner with ADHD doesn't care about their needs, accusing them of not listening, of tuning them out or not wanting to share in their interests. Sometimes, the partner with ADHD feels they are not understood. Their good intentions go unnoticed or unappreciated and their "faults" are focused on.
But, according to many experts we consulted with, relationships when one or both partners have ADHD don't have to end in failure. There are many strategies you can put into place to help improve your relationship.
Before listing the many people who contributed to this project, I want to say "Thank you" to all of those who took their time to answer my question and offer their ideas for helping adults with ADHD.
I recently asked how ADHD impacts relationships and what they would offer as suggestions to help to many different professionals working with adults with ADHD and adults with ADHD who are managing relationships and were willing to share what they have found over the years. In many cases, the professionals are also adults with ADHD so they can speak professionally as well as personally about this subject.
You can read what our experts had to say:
In this part, we hear from:
Terry Matlen, ACSW is a psychotherapist and consultant specializing in ADHD and the author of "Survival Tips for Women with ADHD." She runs the sites www.ADDconsults.com and www.MomsWithADD.com She can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org
Digna Dreibelbis is a 45 year old wife, mother of 3, dog rescuer and caretaker to her 84 year old mother. She was diagnosed with ADHD late in life, less than 2 years ago and has carried the depression/anxiety diagnosis since her early 20's. Since her ADHD diagnosis she finally feels she is getting in touch with her real self and slowly learning what she would like to do when she grow up. Blog Link: http://autumnbluesreviews.blogspot.com/2011/02/complete-idiots-guide-to-adult-adhd.html
In Part 2 of our series, the following experts share their opinions and suggestions:
David Giwerc, Founder and President of the ADD Coach Academy, ADDCA, www.ADDCA.com, is also a Master Certified Coach, MCC, with the International Coach Federation, ICF. ADDCA is the world largest and leading comprehensive ADHD Coach training program in the world and the only ACTP,Accredited Coach Training Program granted by the ICF.
Steve Peer, Current President of CHADD and President of Emotional Mastery, Inc.
Part 3 of this exciting series offers suggestions and insights from:
Dr. Lara Honos-Webb is the author of The Gift of ADHD and The Gift of Adult ADD. For more tips and tools about ADHD visit http://www.visionarysoul.com/. Sign up for Dr. Lara Honos-Webb's free newsletter at http://www.visionarysoul.com/newsletter.html.
Bryan Hutchinson is the author of three books in print about ADHD and five eBooks. He is also a well-known, respected blogger on the Internet and the founder of the ADHD Social Network wwwADDerWorld.ning.com.
This installment includes personal and professional experiences from:
Marie Paxson, Immediate Past-President, CHADD
Kate Kelly and Paul Ravenscraft, ADHD coaches and life partners
Kate is also co-author of You Mean I'm Not Lazy, Stupid or Crazy?! and The ADDed Dimension, ADDcoaching.com.
In the last installment for this question, we have suggestions, tips and insights from four ADHD professionals:
CoachRudy Rodriguez is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker working with ADHD since 1981, a Certified Coach and a diagnosed ADHD adult. CoachRudy is Founder of the ADHD Center for Success and recently opened the ADHD Clinic in Asheville NC.
Michele Novotni, Ph.D. ADHD Coach, Psychologist, former President of the Attention Deficit Disorder Association and author of What Does Everybody Else Know that I Don't? Social Skills Help for Adults with ADHD. www.michelenovotni.com
Cathy Jantzen is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and coach specializing in ADHD in women. She offers workshops, mastermind groups and individual coaching. She's passionate about helping women discover their own personalized ADHD wellness plan and see improvement based on their goals, at their own rate, on their own path. ADHDventures, www.adhdventures.com
Ari Tuckman, PsyD, MBA is a Clinical Psychologist with a private practice in West Chester, PA. He has written numerous articles on many different aspects of living with ADHD as well as two books, More Attention, Less Deficit: Success Strategies for Adults with ADHD and Integrative Treatment for Adult ADHD: A Practical, Easy-to-Use Guide for Clinicians. Dr. Tuckman's latest book, More Attention, Less Deficit: Success Strategies for Adults with ADHD, provides a wealth of information on living with adult ADHD. http://adultADHDbook.com.
Please take a few moments to leave a comment and share your strategies for coping with ADHD in your relationship.
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