My husband and I just celebrated our 9th Anniversary the week before Valentine's Day and we've been together for over 15 years (total). Hubby has ADHD and our sons are ADD/ADHD/ODD while I am Bi-Polar. Hubby and I are each other's counterbalancers. When one of us seem to be getting out-of-control, the other brings us back to the ground. None of us are any longer on medications (I don't believe in most modern medicine). We have low spots about once a month, but we have always been able to support each other and survive. The main things we've found that works great for us is to be understanding, quiet when necessary, and no matter what--LOVING. Don't lose your cool just because he/she does, remain calmer than them, and bring them back to earth. We do use natural resources for the days when control just ain't there. Watch out for the side effects of a lot of the drugs for several reasons. 1. It can have some nasty side effects. 2. It changes your personality. 3. Always make sure that if you take meds, have blood work done as often as possible. You don't want to be over-medicated.
Zombieland can become a side effect so if you have no energy, etc; BE CAREFUL and get ahold of your doctor. If you use meds you may need you med levels checked or meds changed. Don't forget, you want to be among the living not the walking dead.
Deb
Thanks so much for sharing a little bit of your story with us. Families are made up of all different individuals and it sounds like somehow you have made yours work. Good for you and your husband for working together and getting through all the ups and downs and coming out still loving one another.
Eileen
lots of good information in there to take a look at when you're stuck in your relationship.I was particularly fond of the reminder to take a step back and look at the whole picture, remembering that although this person may drive you crazy at times, they bring valuable traits to the relationship, as well.
Another keeper for my files.
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food for thought for all relationships. Sometimes, we can get too stuck in focusing on what is bugging us, instead of looking at how we can support each other.
I remember once reading an article about arranged marriages and how they were done in India (I think it was India?). The article mentioned that the principles of matchmaking in arranged marriages were to have similarities in each partner for certain aspects, but make sure the couple complemented each other in others. It's sound advice.
You are so right, we too often look at the negative rather than focusing on the good. This month is a good time to try to look at your partner with a new perspective and focus on all he or she adds to your life.
Eileen