ADD can interfere with daily life, in children and adults. Although once thought to be a childhood disorder, research has shown that it lasts throughout life. In "Update on Adult ADD," Sam Goldstein estimates that one third of children with ADD go on to adulthood with only minor probl...
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This is the story of how it is with my husband
Kathleen
Thursday, July 16, 2009 at 12:34 PM
This article described the last 20 years of marriage with my husband. The blaming others part is such a huge self-denial mechanism, and has caused so much pain, depression, anger, frustration and despair for me that I see a psychiatrist for medication and a counselor to COPE with living with a person who simply refuses to seek help, who self-medicates with food and alcohol, denies that he is about 100 lbs. overweight and never exercises (no walks, nothing even simple & easy).
Now he is getting up in age -- 50 yrs -- and perhaps his time is numbered in using these two outlets to manage his time. But it doesn't matter because he will use them despite all the red flags. His self-denial is incredibly strong. For you see, to him I am the nutjob, he's fine!!
Once our daughter is through with high school I am out of this marriage. Why am I waiting? Because the only place I can & start regaining my life would be in the city (Chicago) and we live in the NW suburbs. I can't make that commute every day with her for high school & I don't want to pull her out of the school she started in and loves. So 3 more years. The meds, the psychiatrist & the counselor help tremendously but of course things will be 100% better when I am rid of him.
re: This is the story of how it is with my husband
Eileen Bailey
Monday, July 27, 2009 at 11:55 AM
I wish you the best. Please continue to post and let us know how you are doing. Posting and sharing your story may give you a place to vent and cope with the next three years.
Eileen
re: This is the story of how it is with my husband
Carol
Monday, November 02, 2009 at 12:58 PM
Hi, I read your posting about living with your husband who is add. My husband and I recently got married in June 2009. I always knew there was something different about him that made me think of him having add/adhd. We just found out that yes, he difinitely has been diagnosed with it. That is why I can relate to what you said in your posting. And we've only known each other 1 1/2 years! He was in great denial. And as always before, I was to blame and he did no wrong. It's taking him a while to accept this. I will say it was the best thing for him to hear it from a counselor we have been going to and a psychologist. But I still got blamed. I wish you the best with what you are dealing with. If only they knew...
re: This is the story of how it is with my husband
This article described the last 20 years of marriage with my husband. The blaming others part is such a huge self-denial mechanism, and has caused so much pain, depression, anger, frustration and despair for me that I see a psychiatrist for medication and a counselor to COPE with living with a person who simply refuses to seek help, who self-medicates with food and alcohol, denies that he is about 100 lbs. overweight and never exercises (no walks, nothing even simple & easy).
Now he is getting up in age -- 50 yrs -- and perhaps his time is numbered in using these two outlets to manage his time. But it doesn't matter because he will use them despite all the red flags. His self-denial is incredibly strong. For you see, to him I am the nutjob, he's fine!!
Once our daughter is through with high school I am out of this marriage. Why am I waiting? Because the only place I can & start regaining my life would be in the city (Chicago) and we live in the NW suburbs. I can't make that commute every day with her for high school & I don't want to pull her out of the school she started in and loves. So 3 more years. The meds, the psychiatrist & the counselor help tremendously but of course things will be 100% better when I am rid of him.