Saturday, January 12, 2008
Dealing with Denial in a Spouse with ADD/ADHDTake Responsibility for Your Part in the Situation Relationships are created, or broken, by two people. They do not go bad because of just one person. It takes two people to create a loving relationship; it takes two to tear it apart. Blam...
Talk about a relationship complication! And, so much of the literature comes from the perspective that the partner with AD/HD is the male.
It's tough to deal with all the baggage that may result: The ADHD partner may resent being identified as the "problem" or "patient"; feel guilty over having contributed to unhappiness in the partnership; be confused that despite all their good intentions and efforts there are still difficulties, shame relating back to the old refrain that "everything would be ok if they just tried harder"; and eventually hopelessness believing things in the partnership have always been this way and probably won't ever get better.
Having the tips is a nice resource, thanks.
Kelly