Monday, February 13, 2012

Ten Tips for Saying "No"

 So many adults with ADHD are overstressed, overbooked and overwhelmed. How many times do you end up telling someone you will help out, join in or volunteer your time? Do you do so impulsively or because you just don't like saying "no" to someone?  The following are some tips ...
3/12/08 9:22am

All I can say is thank you for this!  The only problem is it came to me too late to save me from myself.  You know, before I said yes to being ADDA president-elect... before I agreed to help my friend move... before I agreed to do that extra project at work... before I agreed to write a month worth of blog posts for ADHDCentral!!!  Cheesy

 

Oh well - live and learn... and then laughyour way through it I always say!

3/13/08 1:27pm

This is so reassuring. I thought I was the only one. (I hired someone to help me get it done when my elementary aged son called and said, "Mom, you forgot me again. I'm the last kid here.")

 

3/15/08 1:34am

Hey Joyous,

 

When my son was elementary school aged, I dropped him off at a half day soccer camp. More than an hour after I was supposed to pick him up, I realized I'd forgotten. I cried all the way to the field. He was fine. And the coach was gracious. He didn't do anything to make me feel bad about it.

 

My greatest fear when he was a baby was that I would place him in his carseat, carry him to the car, put him on the trunk of the car, open the door to put him in, get distracted, get in the car, and drive off. This never happened of course, but I could never let go of the fear that it could happen.

 

Having ADD and anxiety works for me in that I'm always rechecking myself to catch mistakes, and against me in that I am forever worrying about making a serious mistake. 

 

Grandma Lise

3/15/08 12:40am

Eileen,

 

These are real gems- thanks for posting this.

I think all of us who have a tough time saying "no" might want to jot these down on a cheat sheet and keep it in our purse or wallet for when we need it!

 

Terry

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