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I have strongly suspected that my husband as ADHD. We have been married for 13 years. I teach school and have had a lot of experience with witnessing ADHD behavior in my classroom. It is hard to enjoy any kind of conversation with him. He will assume that he knows what I am about to say. He will cut me off. He hasn't sit still to watch a movie in years. He is very argumentative. He is in my business all the time. It doesn't matter whether I am cooking meals or doing the laundry, he always finds something to be irritated about.
I am almost 40 and my second divorce was final March 14th. I was diagnosed in my mid 30's and I often wonder how my life would have turned out if I had been DX earlier. My teen years were filled with addiction and permiscuity; I went from A's to almost dropping out. My second marriage definately failed because of the condition. I was medicated but it just wasn't enough - Stratterra wasn't enough. My ex and I still talk about it and he is glad i am taking new steps for a better me. My condition didn't really slap me in the face until a couple of weeks ago. I met a guy and we were just hanging out. At the end of the day, he started tearing my personality down: "you talk too much, too loud; you interupt, you finish my thoughts". This was someone who didn;t even really know me. I was hurt but at the same time I took those comments and ran - right to my shrink! I have hated my personality for years but never have taken ALL of the steps to help myself. The guy apologized later and we don't hang out but I did thank him for making me more aware. My friends love me for who I am and accept me so they put up with all my irritating traits. It took a stranger to really make a difference.
Wow, the more I read about ADHD the more I wonder if I have it. lol. Your story hit home. Thank you for sharing.
How do you get diangosed without always hearing......your depressed, your under alot of stress, your in your 40's probably pre menopause, you have hypo thryoidism and your hard of hearing is whats affecting you........For years I have questioned what is wrong with me but nothing seems to satisfy what I was told.....lately I was wondering if I was getting Alzhiemers, shee's.......intersting to learn if it has been ADHD all along.........looking forward to learning more.
Take the test.....think back to growing up and how you acted and were treated. How do your relationships "go"? I am ADHD to a T and to the extreme. The more I read and lear, the more I know why I am the way I am. I still don't like it but as least I know why.....and at times can use it as an excuse when i have done something really SDHD stupid! Oh, it happens but my frinds and co-workers accept me for who I am. I have been at my job for almost 5 years (longest ever!), just bought my first condo for my son and I, I have a relationship with a man who is 11 years my junior but also has ADD so we "get" each other. I could go on and on......don't waste anymore of your life. If you have it, accept it, embrace it (it does have its good side - I am the queen of multitasking!), get treated and carry on with your life! Feel blessed....it could be worse!
I met a gentlemen about 4 months ago and on our very first date he told me that he has ADHD. I am familiar with the Disorder due to my line of work, however I did not know the in's and out's of it. I can truly relate to the woman whose husband has ADHD. My friend does not like going to the movies because he finds it boring, he tries to tell me what I am about to say or am thinking and he is easily angered and extremely irritable.
The first few months of our relationship, I witnessed his quick to anger "fits", but everything else was great. He was loving, affectionate and very attentive. After 4 months of our relationship I believe that his "hyperfocused" period has ended and I am starting to truly see how things may be if we continue this relationship. I am unsure if I can do it, I really like my friend alot but I don't know if I can handle his inability to not understand that my actions are a response to his sometimes irrational behavior. Only time will tell.....
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Hmmm...well I do not have ADHD myself but my son has autism and great attention problems as well as hyperactivity.
How do those qualities help our relationship? Well it makes it more exciting that is for sure!
I am never bored as my son keeps me on my toes...quite literally. And I get good work outs too doing our day to day routines as he is running from place to place. My son energizes our relationship that is for sure.
I can't wait to hear what others have to say.
Great question!