I have had many sleepless nights. I am so happy I found this website. I hope I can share the information with my spouse with success in how we deal with our loving son. He (spouse) is saying he wants to throw in the towel to this marriage. He feels I am the one who is the caus...
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I know where you're coming from....
polly
Monday, October 27, 2008 at 12:06 PM
My boyfriend and I have had our share of struggles as we deal with our daughter... you see, she is not biologically his (he's been her dad ever since she was 10 mos old though) and when she started her symptoms it put the biggest strain on our relationship... I really don't know how it all turned around, well, we took a long break (6 or 7 mos) from each other and just ended up realizing what we really wanted. I've done everything I can to educate myself and since he doesn't like reading I tell him about what I've learned. Together, we have become so much stronger in dealing with her and how we handle her behaviours. Initially, I felt like it was my fault, my responsibility because of the fact that she had a different dad. It was her biological dad that she got it from mostly. There were also, however, the underlying factors of home life impacting her. To this day, I know that a lot of it could have been prevented but I was drinking a lot and didnt realize it. Since I've changed all of that around, she has been doing much better (also with the meds). When I took her to all these specialists though I felt 100% at fault.... it's not a good feeling when you realize that this could've possibly been prevented if only I would have changed things a long time ago... i am a firm believer that things can be reversed... at least somewhat... i have hope for tomorrow... as long as i endure today!
Polly
My boyfriend and I have had our share of struggles as we deal with our daughter... you see, she is not biologically his (he's been her dad ever since she was 10 mos old though) and when she started her symptoms it put the biggest strain on our relationship... I really don't know how it all turned around, well, we took a long break (6 or 7 mos) from each other and just ended up realizing what we really wanted. I've done everything I can to educate myself and since he doesn't like reading I tell him about what I've learned. Together, we have become so much stronger in dealing with her and how we handle her behaviours. Initially, I felt like it was my fault, my responsibility because of the fact that she had a different dad. It was her biological dad that she got it from mostly. There were also, however, the underlying factors of home life impacting her. To this day, I know that a lot of it could have been prevented but I was drinking a lot and didnt realize it. Since I've changed all of that around, she has been doing much better (also with the meds). When I took her to all these specialists though I felt 100% at fault.... it's not a good feeling when you realize that this could've possibly been prevented if only I would have changed things a long time ago... i am a firm believer that things can be reversed... at least somewhat... i have hope for tomorrow... as long as i endure today!
Polly