I'm crying tonight

I have had many sleepless nights.  I am so happy I found this website.  I hope I can share the information with my spouse with success in how we deal with our loving son.  He (spouse) is saying he wants to throw in the towel to this marriage.  He feels I am the one who is the cause of this in our child.  I now know that the way we have interacted with each other and with our son has cause our son to become more defiant and not able to know how to handle his behavior.  Looking forward to implementing the suggestions and techniques I learn from this informative website.  Again thank you and God bless you for sharing.  I hope all of us who are loving parents to children with special needs can have a better second, minute,hour and day as we take one step at a time.  Just had to share.  Never did this before.