Dear Lafay
I am glad that you have found this site and hope you find the information useful. First, let me say I know exactly how you feel. My son with ADHD is now 23 years old but the feelings you describe are so familiar to me. You also need to know: you are not a bad parent!
Parenting a child with ADHD is exhausting, both emotionally and physically. It can take so much out of you, but there are solutions and answers to your questions. You are taking some important first steps by trying to find out all you can about ADHD and researching parenting strategies.
Children with ADHD respond to positive reinforcement programs. It can be hard for them to relate a punishment to an action, especially if the consequence is not immediate or if it is drawn out 9like grounding which I have never found worked for my son).
There are some articles and information here that have come from both research and my personal experiences:
Creating a Discipline Process at Home
Games to Motivate your Children
Strategies for Parenting Children with ADHD
Parenting Strategies for Children with ADD (Without Hyperactivity)
Coping Strategies for Siblings
Creating strategies that take behaviors into account and work around them, such as behavioral charts can help a lot. Also, being short and to the point when talking with your children can help. Let them know what you expect and how you expect it to happen with the fewest amount of words. Also, make sure when you talk with your child there are a minimum amount of distractions and if needed, gently hold her chin so that you are looking directly in her eyes. This way her attention will be held to what you are saying better.
I would also suggest trying to find a support group in your area. It sounds as if you could use some emotional support right now. www.chadd.org has a list of support groups, possibly there is one near you. Finding other parents to talk with can help a great deal.
In addition, using this site can help you to talk over situations and find solutions to problems, or to vent about situations that are happening at home.
Parenting a child with ADHD can be exhausting, but it can also be fulfilling and wonderful. Children with ADHD are often creative, imaginative and so full of life and spontaneity, they bring us so much joy.
I hope this helps. Please keep in touch and let me know how everything is going.
Eileen Bailey
Dear Lafay
I am glad that you have found this site and hope you find the information useful. First, let me say I know exactly how you feel. My son with ADHD is now 23 years old but the feelings you describe are so familiar to me. You also need to know: you are not a bad parent!
Parenting a child with ADHD is exhausting, both emotionally and physically. It can take so much out of you, but there are solutions and answers to your questions. You are taking some important first steps by trying to find out all you can about ADHD and researching parenting strategies.
Children with ADHD respond to positive reinforcement programs. It can be hard for them to relate a punishment to an action, especially if the consequence is not immediate or if it is drawn out 9like grounding which I have never found worked for my son).
There are some articles and information here that have come from both research and my personal experiences:
Creating a Discipline Process at Home
Games to Motivate your Children
Strategies for Parenting Children with ADHD
Parenting Strategies for Children with ADD (Without Hyperactivity)
Coping Strategies for Siblings
Creating strategies that take behaviors into account and work around them, such as behavioral charts can help a lot. Also, being short and to the point when talking with your children can help. Let them know what you expect and how you expect it to happen with the fewest amount of words. Also, make sure when you talk with your child there are a minimum amount of distractions and if needed, gently hold her chin so that you are looking directly in her eyes. This way her attention will be held to what you are saying better.
I would also suggest trying to find a support group in your area. It sounds as if you could use some emotional support right now. www.chadd.org has a list of support groups, possibly there is one near you. Finding other parents to talk with can help a great deal.
In addition, using this site can help you to talk over situations and find solutions to problems, or to vent about situations that are happening at home.
Parenting a child with ADHD can be exhausting, but it can also be fulfilling and wonderful. Children with ADHD are often creative, imaginative and so full of life and spontaneity, they bring us so much joy.
I hope this helps. Please keep in touch and let me know how everything is going.
Eileen Bailey