Wonder if 10 year old boy has ADHD Out of Control

By Nanny01 Friday, October 31, 2008

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I am a nanny for a family and have been with them for two years. During this time, I have gotten to know the children very well. The boy, who is ten, has out of control behaviour that really bothers me. I wonder if he has ADHD or ADD.

He started getting suspended from school at 7 years old.

He is 40 lbs overweight and parents have been unsuccessful at keeping him active and eating healthy.

During the time I've known him, I've seen him eat 4 serving of fruits & veggies.

It is a struggle to get him out of bed in the morning or to bed at night.

It is a struggle to get him to take a shower or wear deodorant.

It is a struggle to get him to do hw/projects.

He is in constant trouble with teachers at school and visits the principal's office several times a week.

He throws his food and trash on the floor.

He hits family members and gets in fights at school.

He destroys anything he gets his hands on and is constantly breaking things.

He has no friends.

He has been visiting a psychiatrist for several years with no positive or changing results.

I wonder if he has one of these disorders or something else. I've never run across another child like this..any ideas? Thanks.

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wilwrap4u

11/ 1/08 11:13am

I am not a Doctor, but I do have a child with ADD and Asperger's Syndrome. He was misdiagnosed for 5 years after being kicked out of preschool, hitting other children, running out of his classroom, and having a temper which did not dissipate for hours. I am an RN, so I do have some background in drugs and effectiveness. After putting him on Zoloft, he was an entirely different child. It improved his behavior and temper dramatically. Although not perfected, we are trying a few ADD meds also. I hope this family will not give up and continue to find this child the right Doctors and/or meds.

Heather & Kaleb

11/ 1/08 12:38pm

Dear Nanny, I am a single mother of a son who will be 10 in 4 wks (Dec. 3rd). My son was diagnosed when he was almost 5 yrs old & I took him to his Pediatritian & she put him on Ritalin to help control his hyperactivity & his inattentioness that he had. His Ped. Doc. said that she knew as well as I did from the time that he was about 2-3 yrs old that he had ADHD, but she was just going to wait until the day that I came in & asked her to put him on a medicine for it. When he was almost 5 yrs old the in Home Licensed Daycare privider I had for him, told me make a visit w/his Peds. Doc. to see if there was anything that she could put him on for his Hyperactivity, so that's when he 1st started taking Ritalin & later in Kindergarten, his Peds. Doc. added Clonidine to his Ritalin to help him focus better in school. In Dec. of 2006 (when he was in 2nd grade) the school my son was going to noticed a dramatic change in his behavior at school, his behavior was getting worse. The Spec. Ed Coordinator & the Spec. Ed Teacher that he went to when he was out of control & could not handle himself or the classroom told me that it was time that I should look into having him see a Child Psychologist to help me deal w/his behavior both @ school & @ home. We went to our 1st visit w/the Psychologist in Jan. 2007, his behavior has improved a great deal, but we still are working on some issues that he still struggles w/behavior wise. The Psychologist also said that it was time that his Peds. Doc. needed to stop having control of his meds & he suggested that a Psychiatrist (who deals w/chilren) take over in dealing w/me w/his meds. I told the Psychologist who my younger brother saw when he was youger & on meds for his ADHD & he said to go w/her since she had already dealt w/a family member who was on meds for ADHD. I myself was diagnosed w/ADD @ the end of Summer 2007 & have been taking meds for it myself, the only reason why I take the meds is cause it helps me deal w/my son a lot better. My son now takes Ritalin, Clondidine & Strattera for his ADHD & I take Wellbutrin & Strattera for my ADD. My son used to act like he was going to hit you or someone else, but he never did, he did however have behavioral temper tantrums where he would throw huge fits & kick anything that was in his way & sometimes he would throw things if he got mad enough (which has happened on many occasions). He still does throw huge behavioral aggression fits ever now & then both @ home & @ school, but they are more under control than they used to be & on an occasion he does throw things, but not as that often anymore. In your case the Counselor/Psychologist that the boy sees might not be one that's right for him & you might want to suggest to his parents if you feel his parents would be okay w/your suggestion on taking the boy to a different Counselor/Psychologist. I hope this gives you some insight on what you can do to help this boy out, just hang in there & do as I have learned to do over the last couple of years take one day @ a time. If the day was bad, just say that 2morrow is a new day & we start fresh all over again. Many people have told me I don't know how you do it everyday w/your son, I just tell them that we take one day @ time & if the day was bad, we just start fresh all over again the next day. It does help though if you have a good support system behind you whether it's his school teacher, friends or family members. My son had to start @ a new school last school year in a new town & I still keep in contact w/the teachers @ the school that he had been going to since 4 yr. old Kindergarten (Preschool), cause they had been one of my support networks for so long & one of these days my son will be back @ that school even though we don't live in that district anymore. Take Care, I hope I have given you some insight & good ideas to work with, Heather & son Kaleb

Harry Diamond

11/13/08 9:26am

I am a single father with a 10 year old son who has ADHD and is showing mild symptoms of RAD(Reactive Attachment Disorder). When I was married we adopted him at 21 months old from Russia and have no knowledge of his background. We are no longer married and I now have my son full time 24/7 so I completely understand what you are going through.

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Concerned Aunt

4/26/10 2:12pm

Hello, Mr. Diamond.

I have a 10 year old nephew that has just been diagnosed with having ADHD.

Honestly, although I don't agree with the diagnosis, I am not a doctor and I can't dispute what the medical professionals have said.

He has been giving his mother a hard time for some time now and continues to be completely defiant in school. In my opinion, it appears to be more of a behavioral issue that his mother does not know how to control. Mom has been under a tremendous amount of stress lately which in my opinion has partially added to my nephew's behavior problems.

Let me add that my nephew does not behave with any defiance when he is with me or anyone else that is willing to show him some consistancy or structure. As much as I am totally against giving him the medication prescribed, his mother feels as if there is no other option.

I only hope that giving her another suggestion (your all-natural method), will help the two of them in getting along better, help his behavior at home & school, all the while keeping him from having to be medicated.

Please help if you can.

Thank you.

Harry Diamond

4/26/10 8:02pm

Hello Concerned Aunt,

I completely understand where you all are at.

Email me directly at applebarnharry@gmail.com with your phone number and you and/or his mother and I can talk and I will be happy to fill you in on how and why this works.

I look forward to talking with both of you.

Harry Diamond

5/ 4/10 8:46pm

I have not heard form you or maybe you emailed and I deleted it by mistake. Call me at 954-946-6913 and I will be happy to tell you all about this. It is too much info to type.

I look forward to talking with you.

Harry Diamond

Anonymous

11/19/08 1:46pm

Two of my sons have Asperger's/ADHD, and this sounds very much like Asperger's syndrome. Kids with Asperger's often have angry outbursts that can include violence (particularly if they have ADHD, which means problems with impulse control). They also almost always have an intense dislike of schoolwork from early on and those with sensory processing disorders may be inclined to eat too much or too little.

Wonder if 10 year old boy has ADHD Out of Control

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