School Conferences

By Ruthie G Friday, November 07, 2008

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We just had our son's conference last night. His teacher & I agreed although he "attended" kindergarten last year, he didn't actually bring any of what they taught them with him. She asked if they had mentioned "retaining" him. They did mention it but he started medication in April and they finished in June and I was told he had caught on to things rather well so he should be fine, you can imagine the guilt I feel for letting him move ahead. That is why things have been so hard on him....

We discussed the Response to Intervention they are providing in hopes of asking for an MFE. My husband wants to believe he is just being "lazy" his teacher spoke up and said she had to defend our son at that point. She does believe "some" of these things he CAN do he just has to WANT to do them, such as Math. He seems to be a genius in that area but in Reading (sounds & vowels) he really does not understand it, it doesn't make sense to him. So at this point, they do believe he may have some type of LD,for now it is Wait & See.

He had been on Adderall XR for months, I finally convinced his doctor to try a different medication as I did not believe he was on the "right" one for him. We started the Daytrana patch on November 4 and noticed an immediate difference in him. I am Thankful for that, I did not believe in continuing a medication that was not even working at 50%. This is the best site I've come across since he was diagnosed, there is a TON of great info and other members strategies, suggestions, etc...This site is a Blessing, it has been to our family!!!!

Hopefully, soon we are able to find out what he can do and what he cannot do, the sooner we know, the sooner we can help him in the way that will work for him. It is nice to see people pulling together to make sure he doesn't get left behind. I was not sure of the actual "process" of preparing and asking for an MFE. I've tried to read about it, it is very overwhelming. It makes 100% difference in also finding a medication that works and works well, the 6 months he was on Adderall was not a pleasant experience. It aggravated his condition more than it helped him. Talk about it affecting a household, I think it affected our neighborhood These children who have ADD/ADHD are so special. They do not "act" or "think" as their non-Add counterparts may, it sure does not make them "bad" or "misguided" or Undisciplined children, as many people have told me they think this of my child. I suppose it is hard to look all of these things up, Ignorance is bliss. I could have chosen to do the same thing with this, ignore it, deny it.....

I chose to understand it, to help my son get through this period of his life without too much harm being done to his Ego/self esteem, without him thinking he was so different from everyone else.

(The Stigma) of Add/ADHD are very prevelant in today's society. My son has been hollered at in stores by cashier's for being "hyper". He was not causing any trouble or touching anything. People have pointed their fingers and glared. Every time my son saw someone or heard them say something, he would ask "Why am I so Bad Mom" "How come I am different from so & so" "I am stupid" .........

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Terry Matlen, ACSW, Health Guide

11/ 8/08 9:56pm

Hi Ruthie,

Welcome to the site! I'm glad you found us and that the articles have been helpful to you.

Thanks for sharing your story. Your son is lucky to have you on his team! Hopefully, you'll get the info you need so you'll know how to best help your son. And congrats for considering getting yourself tested!

Hoping to hear more from you.

Regards,

Terry

Eileen Bailey, Health Guide

11/12/08 9:49pm

Ruthie

Thank you for your post. What a wonderful story you have shared with us. It is obvious that you look for the best in your child and how wonderful you made the choice to understand your son's behaviors rather than simply becoming frustrated and assuming he would never accomplish much.

I am sure your son will manage to be just fine, mostly because you believe in him.

I am glad you are finding this site useful. We continue to post new information and articles on the site weekly, so be sure to keep checking back and of course, people are continuously posting blogs.

Thanks again for sharing your story with us and please, keep us posted on how things are going. Please also take some time to share your experiences, advice, etc with other people posting. I am sure many will benefit from your insight.

I also would be interested in hearing about how your evaluation goes.

Eileen Bailey

Eileen Bailey, Health Guide

11/12/08 9:49pm

Ruthie

I am sure your son will manage to be just fine, mostly because you believe in him.

I am glad you are finding this site useful. We continue to post new information and articles on the site weekly, so be sure to keep checking back and of course, people are continuously posting blogs.

I also would be interested in hearing about how your evaluation goes.

Eileen Bailey

Cindy Anderson

11/13/08 9:07am

I fully understand where your coming from . My daughter is in the first grade and in the Houston school, . We are a family coming from outside of Houston living in the rual area, and my daughter has already been labled as lazy, Shes not that at all, She was so use to getting that one on one attention from the teachers , she cant understand why the teacher this year ( minding that we are in a diffrent school this year) why her teacher says she doesnt have time to have one on one, going crazy almost to the point where she just doesnt even want to go. I believe the teacher has put her in a situation where she has labeled her has the SLOW one in her class not to good for my daughters self esteem Im sure, I have asked what I need to do to help and theres no comments, Just about how bad she is at her work, Not knowing where to go with this .

Harry Diamond

11/13/08 9:22am

I am a single father with a 10 year old son who has ADHD and is showing mild symptoms of RAD(Reactive Attachment Disorder). When I was married we adopted him at 21 months old from Russia and have no knowledge of his background. We are no longer married and I now have my son full time 24/7 so I completely understand what you are going through.

Yes there are challenges every day. Yes there are days where it seems like it appears as if nothing was learned or we are going backwards in the learning development area and yes at times it is very frustrating.

There are days when I absolutely refuse to give up. (I think you know what I mean). There has never been a day where I did and there never will be that day. I am very strong willed, positive and like others keep researching in hopes there is something that will make his life just a little bit easier therefore making my life a lot easier.

I very close friend of mine shared something with me that helped me tremendously and kept me away for the anti depressant drugs. I have shared this with others and now they no longer feel the need to use those. I always wanted to, and still do, try to find ways where my son will not need his medications and I have heard of a few success stories. My son does not like taking his medications but he does realize how beneficial they are in helping him stay focused and in control.

After I started using this all natural, organic system (which is the easiest thing to do and tastes great) I immediately noticed the difference in me and started to do some research on how it might affect my son. I met another man, Peter G, who told me his son had suicidal ADHD and in 5 days of using this system, his son was no longer suicidal. My son is not suicidal but I was very interested in the other positive effects such as better energy and focus, control, better sleep, better thought patterns and a more positive outlook on life. I started my son on this program (he still takes his meds) and amazingly in 5 days he was a different person. At first I really didn't believe it so I gave it some more time and the results were consistant.

I am so excited that there is something that there is something out there that is all natural and really works. His teachers, therapist and doctor all notice a major difference.

He now is the kid at school that the other kids want to know. I hear boys and girls, even the ones who are not in his class all calling his name to say hi or goodbye. They want his acknowledgement. He now even has a "girlfriend" and does not care what others (bullies) say. He defends others and I am very proud of him. He even has befriended a boy with special needs who the bullies just mistreat terribly and he is picked on for that. I tell him he is doing the right thing and he knows it because he feels good.

What I have learned and been given is a GIFT!

I share this Gift because I have been blessed with it for me to give to others. This worked for me and my son and I have seen it works for thousands including people with Downs Syndrome. I have seen things that could be classified as nothing short of a miracle.

If you are interested in learning more about this I will be more than happy to share it with you too and anyone you think might benefit from this too.

I look forward to hearing from you. Please contact me through email then we can set a time to talk. There is too much info to type.

Harry Diamond

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Cindy Anderson

11/13/08 9:47am

I would love to hear, I am at wits end, I feel that my daughter has great potental, She has been on vivance for 2 months as of 2 weeks ago I have stop giving her the meds, Just dont seem to be doing anything for her?? Infact, Im not sure If its what she needs, now My 9 year old son on the other hand is on 40mg vivance and he excells . But for my 6 year old little angel Im just not sure?? Please help if you can.

Harry Diamond

11/13/08 10:17am

HI Cindy,

I understand the frustration. I have been there. We all have.

Email me directly at applebarnharry@gmail.com and I will give you my phone number to contact me so I can tell you all about this gift I have been given.

Harry

Cindy Anderson

11/13/08 11:24am

Sorry cant do that the only way of communication right now is threw the computer, Phone got stole this Sunday while I was at the feild playing football with my son, So the right now its only the computer, But I have added you to my address book on my e-mail so give me a shout there?

middy

11/13/08 1:11pm

I think maybe you should request a dyslexia eval. My son was tested & has an above average IQ yet is below level in reading! He does great in math though. This was recommended for him, & he was identified to be dysexic. My son also has ADHD which we are also treating. An IEP (individual educational plan) should be developed for ur son. There are so many programs out there u just have to demand the best one for ur son continue to stay involved.

good luck,

middy

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