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By In the Realm Wednesday, December 09, 2009

Dear Merely me:  My adhd has struck again.  I wrote you a fairly poignant letter and thought I had sent it correctly, it keeps saying my email address and my password do not match.  It should, because since I have adhd desperately and have all my life, without medicin.  I try to make it simple for me and my adhd memory, which is prodigious, but exasperating, and sometimes I just plain forget.  Let me tell you how bad I can be.  I have come out of the mall , got into another townand country chrysler that looked just like mine, tried to start the town and chrysler with my chrysler car keys, only finally realize I was not my car.  I have done this with a grey escape and a few other cars.  Yes I am naturally blond, but that is not what caused me to do that..  My car was new to, but I can only imagine what a person whom that car may have belonged to would have thought, had they come upon me trying to  start their car with my new and actually a little nicer (once I focused) car.  Can you imagine what they may have thought.  Fortunately for me, I have alwyse realized it wasn*t my car and slipped out of theirs and into mine which would probably be very near.  I have done that at least 3 times in my life.  But to try and answer your question or query of blessing or curse on hyperfocus.  I*d say blessing anyday.  It happens to be people like that whom come up with cures for diseases for others, believe me when I say this.  And yes it is flow, and it is beautiful and better than any drug I have been prescribed in the past by dentist etcetra.  When I go to the libray I check out maybe 25 books all non fiction.  I have this voracious appetite for knowledge,and I love it.  I love my adhd brain, it makes me high without the drug.  I am well aware of the cons of  adhd, believe me, am I ever aware.  We as a human species can only do the best with the cards we have been dealt.  To me hyprfocus is a blessing, but I could certainly see where othere*s may see it in a different light.  I know I exasperate people sometimes, but usually most people find the zillions of things that I think of as extremely interesting.  I once went for a job interview when I was about 25 years old.  I needed the job and talked laboriously and I thought interesting to the interviewer, whom at the end of approximately 1 hour of my ongoing 1 way conversation.  Politely and kindly said to me.  Mr. I really honestly cannot hire you for this position, but I could listen to you talk all day long.  I know he meant it in the good spirit that he stated it.  I loved it.  It allowed me to know that I was quite intelligent after having been told I was both stupid and ugly by an Uncle that had a need to try and destroy others, he was quite successful on many fronts.  He didn*t destroy me, but wow did he ever do a number on my head.  But that is another therapy session.  I hope you get to read this post.  I am not very good with the computer, yet, it is so daunting to me.  I have so much stimulus going on in my head and I am not talking Obama stimulus, although that might be an interesting change, but nonetheless, I hope this post gets through.  Maybe this will be a learning and enjoyable experience for me.  I am a bit leary of the computer tech /world, because it truely is invisible in some sense.  Have a nice evening Merely me....You have a very lovely picture posted.  I do not yet know  how to put my photo or anything really in there.  I will though...I am just very slow in getting things done, I suppose if you had a million things you want to get done today, you probably may be slow as well.  I am very sorry for your Mother and that situation, how very sad.  I met such a lovely wonderfully kind elderly schitzaphrenic lady.  I hope she is better now.   

Eileen Bailey, Health Guide
12/ 9/09 2:14pm

Thanks so much for sharing this with us. It is always good to hear how characteristics of ADHD impact people's lives, both good and bad.

 

I also wanted to let you know, I have also gotten into another person's car (on more than one occasion) and did not realize until I was fully sitting in the car, with the door closed. As with you, luckily the owner did not come out of the store before I had realized my error and found my own car.

 

Eileen

Merely Me, Health Guide
12/ 9/09 5:48pm

Hi there!

 

I am very glad you have joined this site.  I did not receive an email so I am not sure what happened but this is better because others can also hear your story.  I too believe that hyperfocus can be a gift...it is certainly better in my opinion to view it that way than as something bad.  I am totally like you about the library books!  I have always enjoyed nonfiction and I take out so many books at a time that it seems like I have a library in my home. 

 

It seems like you have really adjusted well to your ADHD and have such a positive outlook on life...I am sure this helps you very much. 

 

Please do continue to write here and you may also find me on My Depression Connection and Friends of Quinn.

 

May I ask...how did you find this site?  I always like to know how folk find us.

 

Thank you so much for posting this and like I said...don't be a stranger...make yourself at home here and enjoy the site!

12/12/09 9:23am

Yes I have adjusted fairly well to ADHD, only fairly well, because I want to do so much and my ADHD really does get in the way.  Like I just ordered this fancy, smancy smart phone, called the droid, very expensive and I will probably waste most of what it is about.  I never thought I*d live in a papadigm, but that is exactly where I am,  I promised myself at a very young age that I would not ever let myself be in a paradigm situation, but alas and forsooth, that is exactlly where I am.  Oh well, there could be worse things.  I think I stumbled upon this site as I was punching something in about medication treatment for ADHD.  Yes after so many years of not taking a medication,   My sister has it really badly, her daughter whom is  a mini-genius has it really badly but my sister would not let her take any medication for it.  At all.....I have been around her and believe me, she has ADD.  I have always tried to compare my ADHD to others but have found you really cannot do that very effectively.  I have met people that should have been the poster child for ADHd, so I know it really exists.  I guess one of my big complaints is that it does seem to me that a lot of people or even physician have a tendacy to over-prescribe the ADHd label.  Maybe I am wrong, but it seems to me that every time someone wants to make an excuse in life for why they are failing to live up to either there expectation or others , they say Oh, by the way I have ADHD.  So I sometimes wonder do that many people in the U.S. really have lADHD?   In answer to that, I would have to say yeah! probably.  It is just that I am jealous because I was never really diagnosed by a Doctor, but you know, I don*t have to diagnosed with something that is written in every cell in my body.  Yeah, I love my brain, I ain*t gonna lie about that.  But ADHD is one heck of a challenge.  I find the reason it is such a challenge also, is because it mimics so many very commom characteristics of just being human.  To me though, when you have ADHD as strongly as I do, you know why you have procastinatied on that painting you started in2001 and only have 91% finished.  I know it would only take me about 4 hrs to finishe that painting I started in 2001, to have it hung in one day.  The problem is that I am a color freak and you would not believe what it does to my brain when I sit down to a large painting with lots of either acrlics or oils and watercolors with all those colors.  The ADHD kicks in so badly because I have so much difficulty with choosing a color combination, because there isn*t a color I do not like.  I don*t know if you can relate, but its like my brain gets frazzled because of a choic for so many colors.  Scientist seem to say that each individual eye is capapble of discerning 700, thats 7 hundred million different hues of color.  Now that is a lot of color.  I do wonder how they came of with that figure, but I will accept that as truth because I am a number freak also, and I love the numer 7....I have long considerd the fact that I could have a running art gallary in as little as a month or two of my own work.  I am very good, but I do very little, and I am not trying to brag here.  But it daunts me to know end that I sometimes have trouble in hyperfocus, if I could but hyperfocus, I know I could probably have an Art exhibition of my very own in about 3 months.  I raised the time limit because I am not as young as I use to be.  Although I have always had enormous amounts of energy, I am not remiss that my age has risen in factors.  I always wondered why I could work circles around others even when I was in my 40-s ... But I do thank you for the compliment about having a positive sense and a bit of control of this ADHD thing.  I do up to a point.  Let me explain.  I go to the ymca to work out almost everyday.  Well they have this Christmas tree with all these little kids who need help in having a nice Christmas, so instead of taking 1 or two to help , I pick 6 of them. which would cost about 700.00 for their Chritmas presents.  I am not rich and yes I could definately afford to give to two children, but not 6.  So I was so embarrassed that I did this, so I asked a very dear friend if he would place those card things back on the tree.  I was so embarrassed that I did that.  Impulse has always been a very difficult thing for me to watch in my years on this planet.  Well I am sorry to have carried on such a tagent, one other thing I have is a very low frustration leval.  I really don*t like that trait, but it is one I know I have.  I hate to think of going on Ritilin, I really do, and even so, I am not sure it would help.  Even though to some degree I have a measure of awareness of my ADHD driven life, that does not men I do not want some type of relief.  Do you realize how much I would like to go in there in the living room and take those two paintings of which both are anywhere from 80% to 91% finished and finish them including making the frame work as well.?  I can*t even imagine why I bought that expensive smart phone? another sort of frustration, because there is so much to remember and learn there.  I am glad you pointed out the library book thing  So you read mostly non-fiction as well.  I am not sure why I read 99.9% non-fiction, when I was young-7th grade, it was the exact opposite.  I read all the Laura Ingalls Wild books in 8th grade.  I wanted to put 7th grade, but that would have been streching it some.  Now every once in a blue moon or less, I will take out a fiction book.  Certainly have considered writing my very own book.  Another one of those procrastination threats of mine.  I wanted to do a children*s book (two actually), in 1979 when I worked at the library.  One I wanted to title Mrs. Pie makes and bakes a cake...along with a cake recipie, and I wanted to write and illustrate in watercolor. "The Earthworm Whom Survived In The Thunderstorm", I actually wanted to put died in the Thunderstorm, but my sister siad that was too sad.  So I changed it.  But that was the reason I wanted to do the book in the first place, because after a Thunderstorm I would see all of these Earthworms that at the time I thought drowned, but later learned they did not drown, but it was the ultrviolet light that actually did them in.  It just made me very sad, so I wanted to do a children*s book on it.  That was 30 years ago.  How sad I procrastinate so very much.  I simply have a very hard time with procrastination.  Its sometimes has to do with the fact that I have know since was 10 years old, that I could do all that stuff, so it was ok, (not really) to do it only in my mind.  Good Art, in my opinion takes a great deal of energy,  in my opinion the energy of the person is what makes a painting sell for 10 dollars or 10 million dollars.  It is the energy factor of the human doing the actual work.  Of course you must have some since of color cobination and organization.  But I believe energy is of the utmost importance, energy is something that can be felt very very loudly, and sometimes silently.  Sorry for the ongoing and ongoing response.  But thanks for inviting me and welcoming me to the site here.  I haven*t been online for a couple of days,  I am like that, I can go for a week or two.  The computer like the millions of colors the eyes can detect has millions of application as well, and well that is just daunting to me.  In the Realm

12/12/09 10:18am

Its me merely me.  In The Realm.  I know I probably come across as such a narcissit, and to some extent I probably am a bit narcissistic, but certainly no more nor no less than say Brad Pit or Lady GA GA, I read somewhere once that almost all movie stars and singers are extremely narcissistic and I can believe that.  There are worse things.  Am I to understand that you have ADHD as well?  Are you not an expert on this topic?  I sometimes do not always get what I am navigating.  I see these pictures and it says "expert", so I just wondered.  I cannot believe that I only diagnosed myself with ADHD about 4 years ago.  I have been to a few psychiatrist, and as far as I can remember only 1 mentioned ADHD, and I was terrified of medication. so that was out of the question.  I guess after I navigate this site for a little while, even I will pick up on what it is about.  I was so glad the one lady said she had gotten into someone else*s car like I have done about 3 times in my life.  I remember trying to start the car, and finally I focused and realized this car had frabic and ours had leather, it was only then did I realize I was in the wrong car.  I imagine people have done lots of different things that are funny.  Once at the omelet shop I accidentally went into the ladies restroom (swear by accident), used the restroom and washed my hands, then went out and had breakfast, no one said a word,  I am so embarrassed now, because I didn't realize I had done that for some time. Anyways I was wondering if you think it is a good idea to try medication,  I really do not particularly want to take medication, but sometimes I think just maybe I could get myself out of this realm of procrastination everything.  There are just so many things I would love to tackle, but don*t...It is because of the overstimulation of everything and not just plain laziness that cripples me.  Would be appreciative if you could maybe say something about medication pro s or con s... I was considering Straterra, or Ritilin, I think I am afraid of Adderall.  Im really afraid of all the meds, but am willing under good guidance and monitoring to at least try something like this.  I think this is very frustrating because I know there is this huge astigma concerning the stimulant meds.  I even hear that college whom don*t even have ADHD abuse it sometimes because they need to cram for exams or something.  So I don*t want to get myself into a place I am not happy with.  If you have experienced taking medications for ADHD, ( I think you have ADHD) would you mind posting something that may be helpful for me to read?  If you are over a certain age, don*t you have to take a physical if you are going to take a stimulant like Addeerall or Ritilin?  I don*t think I*ll have a problem there as I jog anywhere from 5 miles to 9 miles daily.  Usually around 6 miles or so, just depends really.  I do not want to take meds just for taking meds.  I only want to take them if I can do so in a safe manner and productive manner.  I have managed to live lo these many years with ADHD, so I guess I could live the rest of my life without ADHD medications.  But what if it made such a difference in my life, and I could get some beautiful paintings done, or work on my skills on the computer or the smart phone I just bought.  Or maybe the books I would love to have published or finished. ?  Or the piano lessons I have so long desired.  I play pretty well I have been told, but I only know how to play things I have memorized.  Or how about the singing lessons I*ve always wanted to take, just for the fun and learning process?  A myraid of things, I betr I mispelled that word.  Anyways if you feel ok in posting something about medications and maybe its good effect or not, I*d be very appreciative.  Gotta go buy those Christmas gifts for the ones I took off the Christmas at the YMCA, see ya, In The Realm

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