Only in embracing and acknowledging the loss and the hurt, can we move on to total acceptance of who our child is and what his strengths and limitations are. That is part of the healing process.
It might be helpful to retrace your steps and remember the feelings you had when you first recognized that your child had differences. Was it early on? Some mothers describe hyperactive behaviors when their babies were in utero. How did you feel if/when your child exhibited behavioral problems in those early years? How did you handle the phone calls from school? Or maybe even pre-school? Most parents intuitively knew very early on that something was "off."
Do you remember the day you got the definitive answer to your questions when the professional told you your child has ADHD? What were your thoughts? Relief? Anger? Depression? Fear? Guilt?
Know that even though you may have gotten to the point of total acceptance of your child's ADHD, these sad feelings in you may erupt from time to time as your child achieves various milestones in his life. And know that you aren't alone. We all feel them from time to time; we just don't seem to be able to easily express them.
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