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ADHD expert, consultant, writer. Director: www.MomsWithADD.com
ADHD has been part of my life since...oh, since I was born! But I...
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Thursday, April 03, 2008
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In my post, "ADHD and Guilt: How to Handle Parenting and Boredom", I discussed the often unspoken feelings parents with ADHD have about how certain aspects of parenting can be hopelessly boring. Playing with your child can be particularly challenging if you, like me, absolutely hate most ch...
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ADHD, Parenting and Boredom
Louise Vera
Thursday, April 17, 2008 at 11:37 PM
The writer touches on the ways the creative side of ADHD can outwit the repetition that children love. My story: As a newly separated single parent with ADD, I was overwhelmed by household chores. I made a deal with my children. We would tape bedtime stories every other night. Then on the alternating nights, after bedtime prayer, they could play the tape back to go to sleep. I read several levels of stories: cartoon characters, Bible stories for children, a Sherlock Holmes mystery with children as lead characters, small excerpts of biographies. The three kids asked questions, gave each other answers. Every other night they listened once more to our interplay and learned vocabulary. I used the younger stories like commercials are placed on TV, even imitated the style of advertisers. The older children knew that every so often a commercial for the youngest was coming up. Each child had an inexpensive cassette player in his or her room. Over time the collection grew to some 80 tapes. I still have them, can hear their jokes and notice how their voices changed over the years. By the end of two years my eldest, who had suffered from a learning disability, began to read more fluently and much faster than I could read to him. The younger two had absorbed an advanced vocabulary, savored their evening learning time together. For two years I was able to keep the power of television at bay. Total serendipity borne out of necessity. Also an example of what the writer is saying. L Vera, Cincinnati

re: ADHD, Parenting and Boredom
Terry Matlen, ACSW
Friday, April 18, 2008 at 09:13 AM
Hi Louise Vera,
Thanks for your wonderful response and creative bedtime idea. I would love to see you post this as a stand alone Share Post so others can read it more easily. If you don't know how to do that, can I post it for you?
Your idea is so creative and shows a wonderful way to promote closeness, warmth and education all at the same time. Wonderful ideas here and I'd love for others to see them.
Terry
re: re: ADHD, Parenting and Boredom
Louise Vera
Monday, April 21, 2008 at 11:44 AM
Dear Terry,
Thanks for your kind words. Please do share it with others. I did get more laundry done every other night, but didn't realize the lasting effect that story hour (or hour and a half) would have. I would pray briefly with each child in his or her bed afterwards, actually every night. I think what was really good for both of us was that we set that time aside for being with each other and learning in a fun way. I learned, too, what interested them, kept their attention.
The method did have its limits. My sister came to live with me after getting out of grad school and was a light sleeper. She came to me bleary eyed, "Lou, I hear your voice coming at me from three directions!" They had to turn the tapes down, play them earlier and more quietly.
We are going to get the tapes put onto CD for memories' sake, so that their children can hear their young voices and hear some of the same stories.
It's great to connect with (y)our ADHD community.
Warmly,
Lou Vera
The writer touches on the ways the creative side of ADHD can outwit the repetition that children love. My story: As a newly separated single parent with ADD, I was overwhelmed by household chores. I made a deal with my children. We would tape bedtime stories every other night. Then on the alternating nights, after bedtime prayer, they could play the tape back to go to sleep. I read several levels of stories: cartoon characters, Bible stories for children, a Sherlock Holmes mystery with children as lead characters, small excerpts of biographies. The three kids asked questions, gave each other answers. Every other night they listened once more to our interplay and learned vocabulary. I used the younger stories like commercials are placed on TV, even imitated the style of advertisers. The older children knew that every so often a commercial for the youngest was coming up. Each child had an inexpensive cassette player in his or her room. Over time the collection grew to some 80 tapes. I still have them, can hear their jokes and notice how their voices changed over the years. By the end of two years my eldest, who had suffered from a learning disability, began to read more fluently and much faster than I could read to him. The younger two had absorbed an advanced vocabulary, savored their evening learning time together. For two years I was able to keep the power of television at bay. Total serendipity borne out of necessity. Also an example of what the writer is saying. L Vera, Cincinnati