how they treat me

I have been diagnosed since I was 5, and on and off meds ever since, I have finally realized that being on meds is better but I still have my quirks which get under everyones skin, my mother-in-law treats me like I'm 12 and eveyone just treats me different not like a wife,mother,26 yaer old adult, and they wonder why I'm always crabby,I have to walk on eggshells everywhere I am so that I appear normal but I can tell they're not buying it because of all the years without meds,I just want to be treated like everyone else, not looked at in that way, you know,I'm also Bi-polar I take meds for that too,It seems like it's so much easier for a guy with ADHD,he's the cool fun one,but me,just the hyper annoying one