My fiance displays almost all of the listed manifestations of adult ADHD. When he was a teenager his mother had brought him to a doctor who didn't necessarily diagnose him, but put him on an ADHD medication,for a short time, but his mother told me that his teachers called her saying how much better he was doing in school. When his mother approached me with this idea, I had no idea he had even been suspect of having ADHD, it was complete news to me. When I brought it up with my fiance he got extremely defensive and angry over the topic, not wanting to discuss is whatsoever and denying even the possibilty of having this disorder. It did prompt me to do some research into the symptoms of ADHD, which brought me to this website. Everything that I have read so far applies to how my fiance behaves. I was driven to research ADHD because I was curious to learn more about what it causes, and when I realized that all the things that have been straining our relationship could be due to (at least partially) to him having ADHD, it was a wave of relief. I am currently very doubtful of the longevity of our relationship if it continues on its same course. I wanted to know if anyone had any good tips as to how I may approach my fiance with this topic without him getting too angry or upset with me. I love him dearly, and I want to spend the rest of my life with him, but not at the expense of my sanity. I want it to work, desperately, but I need him to at least acknowledge that he may be victim of this disorder. Even if he does not go on medication, I think the fact that he recognizes that he has this disorder would improve things vastly. But I am unsure as the best way to go about it.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.