When I read the other posts I realize how blessed we are, as there is quite a range of behaviors involved. Our boys were, and are, mainly loud and active. They get along very well together and enjoy each others company. They are not violent or aggressive towards each other or other children. Being around them gives the impression of chaos, but they are quite well behaved most of the time. When we take them out, they behave in the car, stay in their child seats, and do not carry on when we arrive.

 We shop a favorite local thrift store often, and the clerks there never fail to bludgeon us regarding our children, but they never misbehave. They do not grab things off the shelves, knock things down, bother customers or break anything. They are just lively and noisy.

 Both of my affected boys have shown remarkable improvement, and have become a lot easier to live with, without medicating them. There were times we thought it would never happen.

 My oldest is ADHD, and a very bright, friendly, likeable boy. He is very friendly, and not shy. He is also quite capable physically. He might end up a professional athlete, or failing that, a politician. Given how things are in DC, I think I would rather he find more honest work than politics. Such as grave robber.

 His enthusiasm for everything is remarkable.

 My middle son is Autism Spectrum Disorder. He is the opposite of his big brother, as he is passive and quiet. He shows more independence, and has a thoughtful streak.

 I think part of his problem was his older brother, who was so good at getting attention, and dominated him. Now they are both in school, and he is coming out of his shell.

 Blessedly, our baby is not just "normal" but a total sweetie. He is just over two, but almost never exhibits the behavior that got that age named "The Terrible Two's" He adores his older brothers, and they love him in return. They are the three amigos.

 I had despaired they would ever be normal, or would always be a burden. Now, I have hope. 

 I had serious medical problems as a child, (still do) and was put on powerful meds that had long term effects on me. Thats why I hesitated to medicate my boys. I did not want them paying for it their whole lives.

 No one could give me useful info on the various meds available. I believe they feared liability. Our case evaluators said ask their doctor, their doctor said ask their teacher, their teacher said ask the doctor!

 Still, I would really like to hear real world stories of what the condition was, the medication used and the results.

 Thanks all, and God bless