Dealing with ADHD and ODD

tammy gibson Community Member April 02, 2009
  • Sometimes it really hard to deal with these things daily. Im a single parent and i try the ADHD is managble its the Odd im really not sure how to deal with is . It seems like it is worse than ever and i dont think there is a way to deal with this . If there is let me know always up for ideas.

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  • Eileen Bailey
    Health Guide
    Apr. 03, 2009

    Tammy

     

    So good to hear from you again! I am sorry you are having trouble right now.

     

    ODD (Oppositional Defiance Disorder) can be tough to handle, children are often argumentative and disobedient and emotional fuses are constantly running short, leaving the home feeling more like a battleground than a place of comfort and solace.

     

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    Tammy

     

    So good to hear from you again! I am sorry you are having trouble right now.

     

    ODD (Oppositional Defiance Disorder) can be tough to handle, children are often argumentative and disobedient and emotional fuses are constantly running short, leaving the home feeling more like a battleground than a place of comfort and solace.

     

    I am giving you some links to articles that focus on this issue:

     

    Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD)

     

    ADHD and Conduct Disorder

     

    Creating a Discipline Process at Home

     

    Creating a Discipline Process at Home

     

    The Out Of Control Child

     

    Managing Chores in the ADHD Household

     

     

    I hope this information helps. Please let me know how it is going.

     

    Eileen

     

  • Anonymous
    MOMMY T
    Mar. 17, 2013

    My daughter is 9 and has been diagnosed with ADHD and ODD since she was 4. Some days are sooo hard I dont even want to get out of bed in the morning. Alittler background from me: I am married and we have been together for 11 years, we have our daughter who is 9 and we have a son who is almost 5. Like I mentioned before she was diagnosed when she was 4. We put...

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    My daughter is 9 and has been diagnosed with ADHD and ODD since she was 4. Some days are sooo hard I dont even want to get out of bed in the morning. Alittler background from me: I am married and we have been together for 11 years, we have our daughter who is 9 and we have a son who is almost 5. Like I mentioned before she was diagnosed when she was 4. We put her on medicine for 2 days and then took her off, she was very tired and didnt want to do anything and when it wore off in the evenings she just sat and cried b/c it made her feel weird and I guess he couldnt handle it........we work sooo hard and I try everything possible but the days are getting undearable........every single day without fail are the temper tantrums about anything and everything. She always screams at ehr brother about anything and she doesnt just say it i mean she literally screams! She has had the worst attitude for about 2 months now and its only getting worse........I literally lay and cry at night b/c I am at a loss, I feel like a failure as mother........I am the kind of Mom who is always playing with my kids, always playing catch and reading and coloring ya know. I am a very hands on Mommy and always have been. I get off work at 2:00 so I can get them from school, I refuse to work until 5 or 6 and miss the time to spend with them. I sometimes wonder if it would be better for them if I wasnt around as much, I dont know???..........I beg my daughter sometimes to just stop, I cry to her and I know I shouldnt but I dont know how else to get her to see and understand that what she does is hurting people......she stomps around every day, she yells every day about something......she sighs, rolls her eyes, always always has to have the last word....I am not a hitting kind of Mommy, but sometimes I just cant help it, I seriously wanna run away sometimes, I know that sounds terrible but my mind and heart cannot take it anymore and shes only 9! Shes such a pretty little girl and very outgoing, too outgoing sometimes I think. Shes very athletic and we try to keep her bust that way but it doesnt matter.........if anyone has a medicine that has 100% worked with little side effects, please share......like I said we are pretty anti medicine b/c of all the side effects and I dont want a zombie of a daughter but sometimes honestly think it might be a little easier if she were calmer, I dont know, its sooo hard to decide.....so difficult.....I dont want to make the wrong decision or a bad decision but is keeping the meds away really the right thing if its making everyone in our family miserable? She has seen her behavioral doc off and on, but in the end it always comes down to meds or no meds??? I have done very punishment possible......she is an amazing speller and her hand writing is remarkable b/c i make her write when she doesnt listen like if she talks back, she will write I will not talk back to my mom like 20 times....we've done the time outs in the corner, the time aways in her bedroom, we've taken items away...games, tv, toys, etc.......nothing works...she will still come back and within 10 minutes be in trouble again.........does anyone else seriously yell at their kids every single day? I try not to raise my voice but eventually I have to......im lost, scared, worried.....i dont know what to do......

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous
    Feb. 02, 2010

    I am a special educator, we use taskboxes with activities that students like to do like puzzles and use a timer and give them a choice of rewards. You can try this.

  • aaprilp3
    Apr. 30, 2009

    My daughter is 8 and has been diagnose with ADHD,but I know she has ODD....she currently take Adderall. Some days it sooo hard for my to function. I'm on antidepressants myself just to handle the stress. It taking a lot of parenting to have a child like this. I give parents alot of credit..remember you're not alone. I use to love going grocery shopping...

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    My daughter is 8 and has been diagnose with ADHD,but I know she has ODD....she currently take Adderall. Some days it sooo hard for my to function. I'm on antidepressants myself just to handle the stress. It taking a lot of parenting to have a child like this. I give parents alot of credit..remember you're not alone. I use to love going grocery shopping now I hate it. people look at me like "control your kid". You need breaks for yourself....look to family and friends for free babysitting time so you can have some alone time you need it!

     

    April

    • Jan
      Jan
      May. 21, 2011

      I am raising my grand daughter who is 7 1/2 years old.  Oh my goodness.  What a terror.  I am alone much of the time because my husband's job is nuts.  There is no regular schedule. One day he works days, then next he could be on nights.  We have no family here.  Friends are all gone on retirement to other states.  Can you...

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      I am raising my grand daughter who is 7 1/2 years old.  Oh my goodness.  What a terror.  I am alone much of the time because my husband's job is nuts.  There is no regular schedule. One day he works days, then next he could be on nights.  We have no family here.  Friends are all gone on retirement to other states.  Can you give me some pointers on how not to lose my mind?

       

  • Heather & Kaleb
    Apr. 13, 2009

    Tammy, hi this Heather, I know exactly what u are going thru w/the ADHD & ODD thing w/your daughter.  My son as I had told you b4 has ADHD but about 2-3 mnths ago I had read an article on this website about ODD & everything in the article I could say that's the way my son behaves & acts.  I then checked out one of the books that where...

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    Tammy, hi this Heather, I know exactly what u are going thru w/the ADHD & ODD thing w/your daughter.  My son as I had told you b4 has ADHD but about 2-3 mnths ago I had read an article on this website about ODD & everything in the article I could say that's the way my son behaves & acts.  I then checked out one of the books that where in the article from my local library the name of the book is Your Defiant Child, 8 Steps to Better Behavior & the authors name is Russell A. Barkley.  I also had to look up the book in my libraries linkcat system to get the name of the author of the book, while I was in there it I just looked to see if they had anymore books about defiant children & I found 2 more books & the name of the books & their authors are the following The Learning Differences Sourcebook -- Author's Name Nancy S. Boyles & the 2nd book & author is The Kazdin Method for Parenting the Defiant Child w/No Pills, w/No Therapy & No Contest of Wills -- Author's Name Allen E. Kazdin.  On the 2nd book I gave you I'm just gettting to see what some of the approaches are to it, but I'm not going to stop going to see the Psychologist or the Psychairtrist that prescribes my sons meds, cuz I will not be able to handle my son then w/being a single parent like you are.  I also take it one day at a time & if its a bad day then I just hope & pray that the following day is better than the day b4 & that seems to work sometimes.  My son also likes to help me bake at times & I do a lot of homemade baking, I at least make homemade cookies once or twice a week & my son will help me out sometimes for a little bit (usually about 15-20 minutes then he's bored).  My son also got a Gameboy Advance from one of our family members for X-Mas & she also got him some games to go along w/it (the Gameboy & games where all used) then when I got my taxes back about a mnth ago I bought my son a Nintendo DS & the games that he has for his Gameboy he can also play them in his DS so I didn't have to buy any games right away but over the last 6 wks we have boughten 6 games, 3 of them are educational & the other 3 are fun but non violent games (there's no fighting, guns or anything of that nature in them) & I also bought him a DS Carrier that holds 8 DS Games & it also has room in it for his Gameboy & all of his Gameboy Games & some earplugs that go to an I-Pod but also works for DS's, it also happens to be a backpack type carrier so we take it w/us when we are going to be away from home & doing things in the town we live in.  I like to call it my free babysitter sometimes cuz it keeps him occupied while we are gone & we take the cab almost everywhere we go & sometimes it can take the cab 15 minutes or longer to show up & my son's also very impatient which we are trying to work as well.  Well Tammy I hope this gives you some ideas on what you can try if you want to & I also hope that you check out the book Your Defiant Child, 8 Steps to Better Behavior, I found that book to be really helpful so far, if you do check out the book from the library & you want a copy of it for yourself amazon.com has the book in paperback for between $13 - $25's.  I have the other two books I mentioned on reserve cuz they are checked out already from my local library, the 1st of the other 2 books I mentioned is due back to the library by next Tues. the 21st.  Take Care Tammy & Hang in There --- Heather & Kaleb