Do people with ADHD have a tendancy to bump into things? My friend describes me as "a bull in a china shop" and I seem to not have my whiskers on right... if you know what i mean.
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Clumsiness, although not listed as a symptom of ADHD as listed in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual , is certainly a common characteristic. In an article written by Terry Matlen, "Common Symptoms of ADHD in Women" she lists clumsiness and poor coordination as one common symptom.
Some other articles you might be interested in:
How ADHD Symptoms Manifest in Adults
ADHD in Women
10 Things Your (ADD/ADHD) Partner Would Like You to Know
In addition, there is a great deal of information in our Adult ADHD section.
Keep posting, please let us know how you are doing. How did you discover your ADHD? Let us know your story.
Good morning Eileen
Thank you for getting back to me and thank you for the links. I appreciate it. I am 30 years old and I honestly didn't figure it out until about 1.5-2 years ago. One of my girlfriends was describing a co-worker and said he probably had ADD and then light bulb went off... I was sort of like him, but he's a bit more scattered and has a harder time recovering from a thought (at least I think). Back then I was going to school at night so I didn't have too much time to read about it. But the more I read about it, I am on point with almost all of the symptoms. Sad...but true. I didn't see my personality as being a problem in the past. People just thought I was silly and fun, to be honest. But I have noticed that in a dating relationship, if the person isn't patient, they can't handle my intensity. I am a ball of energy, but do speak my mind, which isn't always good. I seem to not have the ability to think before I speak, so sometimes my message comes out wrong. People that know me, know that I am a sincere caring and loving person, so they don't take it personally. But people that don't know me that well could certainly take it the wrong way.
I always just thought I was blunt and straightforward, but never thought it was a condition.
The more I read about it, the more I remember little things people would say to me growing up and it kind of hurts. I am an accomplished woman. I have been going to school at night since Sept 2002, while raising my daughter on my own and working full-time. I've done home improvements and graduated just in August as Valedictorian. My biggest downfall is that I'm not organized, in my opinion. I just can't look at a mess and know what to do. My family doesn't understand and I feel look down upon me because of it. (at least my sisters). They are organized so they can't understand why I am the way I am. I wish I knew how to be better at it. I would love to have parties at my house or have people over for games and drinks, etc. I've been single and dating and that's the first thing I tell a man. I am not organized and need help in that area. Usually they don't care. Only recently I've noticed my boyfriend not being able to handle my occasionally interrupting his talking or things I say come out wrong. His interpretation is not what I meant.
SO... I've taken some time to read more and seek counseling and maybe medicine. I just haven't found the right strength to take. I want to be a better person. I do like my spontaneity and drive, but I do lack tact. Even with my flaws, people are drawn to me and feel good around me. I guess because I'm silly and free spirited. So it's not all bad.
I wonder who in my family I inherited it from. That's my next mission... to find that out. I am guessing that it could be my dad and he may not even know it... or maybe his parents. There wasn't adhd when I was a kid. I remember when I was a kid, the principal told my mom to hold me back from kindergarten another year because I would drive the teacher crazy. I was super intelligent, but I couldn't sit still. Now I know why....
I am interested in learning steps to organize my life, but being a single parent, I don't have a lot of money to hire a professional organizer. I called one once and told my mom about it. She told me to not pay her, that she'd help me, but she's only devoted a few hours once and I need more that that. I haven't received child support since October, so the funds are definitely not there to hire someone and I need help. L It takes me an hour to put something away, where it may take another person without ADHD five minutes.
My boyfriend is definitely struggling with my impulsive speech because he's very organized and thinks in a methodical way. I do not and he can't understand why I can't. If I have a thought, I have to say it. (or I may just forget it). I can't stand silence. I have to work with music on or I feel like I'm going crazy. Anyway, I could rant about my symptoms... They are on point with all three categories: inattention, impulsive and hyperactive.
Thanks for taking the time to listen.
Let me start by saying I tend to be pretty skeptical about unconventional therapies. But over the past year one of my sons, who has multiple diagnoses including ADHD, OCD, CAPD--yada, yada, yada--has improved his eye-hand coordination, reading effectiveness and speed, and other motor skills dramatically after beginning a visual training program. In fact, his reading speed increased so dramatically after just two weeks of training that he got through the entire training program without more than one or two reminders that it was time to train. [This itself was nothing short of a miracle... ;-) ] Though his grades were excellent before the training, the amount of time and energy he now spends doing homework has decreased dramatically,and he rarely needs extra time to take tests. He's still not very physically active, but he is clearly more coordinated and self-confident.
On the chance that your "bull in a china shop" behavior may be related to less-than-perfect visual-perceptual issues, you might want to check out the following web site:
It may not be for you, but it's certainly worth checking out.
Thanks for your info. I'll take a look at it Bruce.
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