When The Spotlight Turns Off

They all want the  titles and show their pictures but what really counts is someone taking action to help us. I experience the same problem. Teachers were prejudice against my son for adhd and boy did they make it hard on him. It is so unlawful what they do in berkeley county-especially in middle school.

This is in response to your posting regarding a wv school system not wanting to service your son.  I can empathize with your frustration as I too have worked in your shoes, however, my son is in 5th grade and I fought daily to make sure his needs are being met.  Besides being a mom I am a special ed. teacher, 18 years) and served as a teacher in WV for two years.  Only I had to deal with a southern Ohio district. 

Remember as a parent you can file a complaint through the state Dept. of Ed. if your school district does not provide for your son.  This is an area in which I work with families to help them through this process.

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Gail

I find in this world in general, you have to take care of yourself.  ADD runs up and down my family line.  My brother was told he had it in first grade.  While watching 20/20 one night a button clicked that the story was about ME!  no one ever did anything for me except myself.  Its harder when your parent has it too.  With my children I have to speek up to teachers and doctors who dont have time or patience to lisen enought to see the problem.  this site is a great starting point to find people who care, But dont expect it from the aveage joe. 

I managed a toy store for years. Alot of teens worked for me.  Its hard when you see the adder and see how he's treated by his peers.  They don't understand him, They don't want to understand him.  They ttease and pick on him as young adults as well as children.  I'm willing to bet if you profile all the highschool shooters,  you'd find adders who were lost in the system and picked on by the masses.   The biggest problem is doing nothing at all.

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Doing nothing you make ajustmenst and learn to live your life with it, sometimes for the better. But, mostly for the worst. Adders take a long time to learn and learn from misstakes. 

I wish there was someone outhere when I was a child who fought for me.  Even as an adult, my so called submissive ex. wife did nothing but read about add, tell me what was wrong with me and argue with me.  No one ever did anything else for me, But me!

the services and education about add have improved over the years but ultimately you do have to be your childs advocate.  a parent knows in their heart when something is either not right or their child is having a difficult time. responsible parents keep pushing FOR their child whether their child has special needs or is just on the end of old fashioned bullying. ADD or not.  when the childs hurts are just ignored due to parental laziness they carry that scar forever.  my husband has major add issues , none of which were remotely addressed as a child and his coping skills have caused a great difficulty in our married life. when i would fight with the school he told me i was " causing trouble " for our son, that I was to blame.  every attempt to explain ADD's effect on my son becomes a battle with my husband, i think because my husband refuses to accept just how far reaching his own ADD affects us all.

a friend of mine has a daughter with Down's. she moved 6 miles from one school district with excellent services to one with virtually none.   in 6 MILES ! 

So, I have a 6yr old who I think may have ADD.  We just completed the BASC 2.  He is on a behavioral plan at school, and is a challenge at home.  He has no other learning disabilities & is described by his teachers as "smart, but his impulse control is starting to get in the way of his academics."  It doesn't seem as though he has many friends as the phone is not ringing very often for playdates, & he isn't interested in having anyone over his house.  He sometimes complains that he has no friends, although teachers say that he does.  He has also been stealing toys from other kids lately.  He has also been bullying another child on the bus to the point that he is now on another bus.  We, as parents, have been very consistent with discipline, and have two other children who behave appropriately for their age.  My 6yr old plays great with older kids, it seems, as well as his brothers for the most part.  I have felt like he has had issues since he was about 3yrs old.    WHen you say you wish that someone had done something for you, what is it you wished they did???  It is not often that a parent in this stage of the game gets a first person perspective!!

Looking forward to everyone's response.

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