Gosh, Kandi, you really are stuck between a rock and a hard place!
Bear in mind one thing. Unless you are living in one of the two states that allow psychologists to prescribe medicine (Louisiana or New Mexico) or, the Military, you might want to listen to your pediatric neurologist. Most psychologists are not trained in medicine and while they have valuable opinions, they certainly cannot have the same knowledge as a pediatric neurologist. If you don't trust your neurologist, then find one you do trust, or seek a second opinion.
Medication does help with ADHD, but until 2006, there are no specific medications to treat Autistic disorders including Asperger's. However, in 2006, Risperdal was approved for treating Autism. Risperdal is an antipsychotic drug used to treat Schizophrenia, Bipolar Disorder and
irritability in Autistic children.
Most doctors typically treat the symptoms that they see in Autistic children, such as anxiety, depression, rage, attention problems, etc., and you can read more at this think Child-Autism-Parent-Cafe.
I have been using Neurofeedback successfully with both ADHD and Autistic Spectrum children for many years and the results are extremely rewarding for both the children and their parents. You can learn more about Neurofeedback and Autism here from one of the leading experts in the country.
Best of luck,
Dr. Diana Walcutt
Towson Psychological Services
*Dr. Walcutt is a Psychologist, not a Psychiatrist. Psychiatrists prescribe medications. Psychologists study them, but most Psychologists are not authorized to prescribe meds or give you specific advice about them. Dr. Walcutt's answers are not intended to diagnose or treat any medical or mental disorder. Any information given in a post about medication is for educational purposes only, and primarily to aid you in having an informed discussion with your own Psychiatrist/Physician.