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Q: I am an ADHD child. And kids treat me like i am a freak. Am I a freak?

They treat me like an outsider. A loser. And a freak.Frown I always wonder if it is because I am an ADHD child. Well, am I?Cry

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1/25/09 10:59am

no ur not a freak, you are just unique & different.  i am a 31 yr old single mom w/a 10 year son who has adhd & odd (oppositional defiant disorder).  he had to transfer to a new school in may of 2008 & when he would have a behavioral outburst the kids would look @ him differently cause they wheren't used to seeing a child act like that.  the kids @ the other school didn't really pay any attention to him cause they all started school w/him when they all where in 4 yr old kindergarten & now they all are in 4th grade this school year that we are in at this time.  the kids at his old school just ignored him & didn't pay attention to him cause they where used to him, but the kids @ the new school would just stare @ him cause he was different than what they where.  but now that he's in school w/them this year they are more used to his outburst & they don't stare @ him anymore they just ignore hm & pay no attention to him & they go on w/their school work.  he has made a few good friends @ this new school & they are learning more about him everyday, but he does have his bad days but most of them are good days thank god.  so just remember that god created every different & unique n their own way so don't think that ur a freak just cause someone/somebody thinks that u are a freak, just remember on the inside & outside we are all the same as everyone else.  well i hope that this gives u some insight on that u are not a freak & that u are just ur own person & no one can change that , if everybody was the same then the world would be no fun & no one would want to do anything so go out, have fun w/the friends u do have & cherish & forget about the ones that think ur a freak cause they're the ones who are the freaks cause they don't like people who are a little different & unique from them.  take care & enjoy the day & have fun w/the friends that u do have that don't care that ur a unique individual, heather and son kaleb.  my name on this website is Heather and Kaleb.   

 

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1/22/09 5:53pm

Laughing First off I'm sure ur not a freak and extremly special! My son who is 12 has adhd and he has always been an "outsider". He thinks very differently from the other kids because his mind never shuts off! I've watched him and sometimes mosts kids are upset because he figures things out in a better way or even faster then he does. Sometimes its because he is kind of a dare-devil and he is willing to do things they are not. He does have 2 really really good friends that he talks to and sees alot. He stays at their house or they stay here. They act just like any other kids when they are together and sometimes I pass out from exhaustion before they do. But they love how he comes up with different ideas and he is never "boring". I think you just have to find the right friends and when u do they will be good friends not just a friend you have for now but for a long time. And those are usually the best kind to have anyway

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2/ 7/09 5:18pm

You are a gift.  Period.

 

You see the world in ways most of us cannot see the world -- that spark of creativity, sometimes zany connections, will take you in exciting directions and allow you to make unique impact in your communities and world around you.

 

It is SO hard for kids to understand people who are different.  If you're not the same as others you are a "freak" or a "loser."  But that is truly THEIR own limitation.  And nothing could be further from the truth.  And as they get older, they will see or at least watch how folks like you make such impact.  Look at the greatest artists, entrepreneurs etc.  I suspect 80% of them have ADD or ADHD! 

 

NONE of this makes this a lot easier day to day for a kid.  I would urge you to talk very openly about how you feel -- your folks, a teacher you trust -- because sometimes we just need to know there is someone out there we can reach.  Sometimes for concrete advice.  Sometimes for help (especially if you feel you're getting bullied -- you should NOT be shy to report that).  And sometimes just to have someone listen.

 

And focus so much time on things you love and do interestingly -- in school, out of school, find a few other kids who have their own drummers.  And create!

 

Look at this photo -- outsiders, losers all.  Some I think had ADD or ADHD.  They were all very unpopular in school

 

Here's the link if the photo below doesn't work: 

 

http://newsimg.bbc.co.uk/media/images/41774000/jpg/_41774012_02_group_ap416.jpg

 

BTW, these "losers" created Microsoft...   Laughing

 

 

 

 

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2/12/09 11:59am

What I tell my son is that people do judge us by our behavior, but that's their problem, not his.  If you are considerate of others, you'll eventually attract those who are also considerate.  If you act like a jerk, you'll bring out the jerk in others.

 

ADHD is a medical condition.  I wouldn't call a diabetic a freak because her body doesn't make enough insulin.  Treat others as you'd like to be treated, and you'll go far.--Ella

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2/12/09 12:44pm

Laughing  I was so saddened by your question, that I had to respond!!!  I am the mom of a 14 year old boy who was diagnosed ADHD 5 years ago.  Yes, his behavior can be different then many, but he is not a freak and neither are you!  Perhaps some of the kids don't understand your activity level, perhaps they all expect you and others to be just like them (now that's freaky!), perhaps your behavior is different from theirs....so what!  If everyone was the same it would be a pretty boring world!!!  I think the most important thing is that you are comfortable with who you are and the ways in which your ADHD may make you different. Once you are comfortable with yourself then no-one can make you feel freaky.  You are you and that makes you special!  Please, find someone at school or talk to your parents about what you are feeling, there is no reason anyone should be making you feel this way!! Chin up and enjoy discovering and being you!!

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3/16/09 12:11pm

take it from someone who has adhd , i too was treated like a freak . they use to do some stuff to me in school . they just don't understand how and why you are the way you are .. if they were taught about wat adhd is , i am sure they wouldn't treat you like a freak or very immature . we  may have smaller brains than the average person , but , we make up for it in other ways ...  talk to the dr and see if you can get some kind of paperwork on adhd  and pass them out to your friends , then they will show other people and it may become a whole lot easier for you and them to understand . so you won't feel like a freak ! i was always treated like the outsider and a loser because i just was not into things kids my age (at the time ) were into . if ya need to talk . i am here ! ok

                                               from one freak to another !  your friend rene

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