Is memory really the prob 4 ADHD folks?Or is it the thought never gets registered in brain?

Hi Ms. Muddle,

That's a great question and I think the answer is...both are or can be true.

People with ADHD often struggle with memory whether it originally "registers" or not. In the former, we often see people who have difficulty with recall or sustaining it in our working memory. We might enjoy a wonderful movie but forget the plot and main character the minute we leave the theater. Or we can enter a grocery store with the intention of buying three things, but leaving with only two.

We can also have problems with memory, as you've pointed out, because things might not have registered to begin with. Why? Because we are often so distracted that the information never gets to our brain in the first place.

So to answer your question, yes...I'd have to say that both can be true.

Terry

As a person with ADHD there is definately nothing wrong with my memory.  As long as I'm paying attention I will remember whatever I learn, however I do have quite a bit of trouble remembering certain tasks I'm supposed to do at the right time I'm supposed to do it, like remembering to get milk on my way home, or the one thing my husband asked me to get him while I'm at the store, or remembering to take my list into the store, but things like that are mostly due to getting distracted or remembering other things instead, because I definately at some point do remember as I'm slapping my forehead and calling myself an idiot. So that would all be due to either not getting the information in the first place(good hint, make sure that the ADHD person you are speaking to is actually looking at you AND responding to you, because looking at you doesn't necessarily mean they are paying you any attention ;and this is not on purpose) or getting distracted and temporarily and inconveniently forgetting the right information at the wrong time.

Both answers above are correct. And as Bitsycabana said, it is important to make sure

the ADHD person is actually receiving and responding to the information you are sending to him/her.  One way you can do this is by looking directly into the eyes and respectfully asking him/her to repeat back to you what you just went over. 

Very important, though is to be respectful. We ADHD are already way down on ourselves, we don't need more pressure which creates anxiety and puts us into a downward spiral and depression.  That is where mine goes. I am far harder on myself than anyone else could ever be. 

Also, if a list is written, make sure the ADHD person has put it in a pocket on their person.  Things need to be made habit. Not easy, but can be done. Same place for list

every time. Then it's always available at the store.

Color code things on lists, in house, so they are easier to relate to and find.