Hi Amanda,
Thanks for submitting your question.
I'm not sure who told you that you would never be able to pass the GED, but I would waste no time in consulting with someone else who has more compassion and understanding of ADHD. Under federal law, you are entitled to get help and support so that you can take that exam, along with accommodations so that you CAN pass. The person who worked with you obviously doesn't understand that.
You are driven, motivated and passionate about your future. Please don't let your past experiences stop you from achieving your dreams; you simply need to know how to move forward with the proper supports.
First, contact your local Dept. of Vocational Rehabilitation and explain that you have documented ADHD. Explain that you want to get help in preparing for the GED so that you can then go on to college.
Find a local college that has special supports on place for students with ADHD and/or learning disabilities. Call them (ask for the student service/disability office) and tell them your story and ask them what they can do to help you.
I wouldn't give up on counseling. You need to find someone who is understanding of adult ADHD (many are not). With that kind of support, you WILL move forward and achieve your dreams; you just need to appropriate help.
To find a clinician who specializes in adult ADHD, go to the various online ADD directories to find someone in your area:
www.add.org
www.chadd.org
www.addconsults.com
In thinking more about your letter, I would contact the person who gave you such an unfair, grim report and ask specifically WHY he/she thinks you would not be able to pass that test. Unless you have a lot more going on than what you've shared here, I see no reason why you can't move forward.
Don't give up!
Terry