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Thursday, July 07, 2011 scottadhd, Community Member, asks

Q: My 15 year old daughter has ADHD and is severely immature. How can we help her "teach" her maturity? She doesn't seem to be growing out of it.

She has very few friends, because she lacks social skills. What couple friends she claims to have, she seems to have no interest in calling or texting or inviting them over. When she was younger the maturity level didn't matter as much and I could invite the friends for her, but now the gap is growing and she's to old for me to set up "playdates"! She prefers playing with 3rd-4th grade kids, which doesn't help the maturity. She also has no interest in her appearance. (Brushing her hair and teeth, makeup, etc) I am desperate for her to make real friends, as she enters these tough years.
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Eileen Bailey, Health Guide
7/ 8/11 12:55pm

Thank you for your question and welcome to


I am not a medical professional and would not be able to give you medical advice.


Children with ADHD are often several years behind their non-ADHD counterparts, even well into the teen years. I am not sure you can teach your child maturity but you can help to teach her social skills, by role-playing, by finding activities that interest her, such as art or music classes, where she can be around others who share her interest. Many children with ADHD tend to do better in small, structured environments.


For more information:


How ADHD Impacts the Daily Life of a Child


Role Playing to Teach Children with ADHD Social Skills


The Fine Art of Raising a Teen With ADHD


You may also want to speak with your daughter's doctor and request a complete evaluation. An accurate diagnosis is so important to making sure you have an effective treatment plan in place.



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By scottadhd, Community Member— Last Modified: 07/08/11, First Published: 07/07/11