Monday, July 27, 2009 ADDbuster asks

Q: Adult diagnosis aftermath

Hi, I have a question with regards to Adult ADD. I was diagnosed about 3 months ago after going through many serious failures (I would not have known otherwise) so it was a blessing

in a bad, costly and painful disguise. Having said that my reaction was of feeling punched heavy weight boxer. I could not do anything but think about this

thing I got consumed totally and all what did was research ADHD day and night. Now taking into consideration that I was jobless and in a bad place anyway I could not focus

and be bothered to look for a job the shock was too big. The past 3 months have passed with me being unproductive on the work front because I did not want to be fired again now that I realized why it all happened in details, second I did not have the energy to go there after all I had been through.

Now is this normal? or I have overeacted to the most important news I ever got that explained too many things in one go. Is this a sign of laziness and being too sensitive to an issue that in my point of view can slowly kill you. 3 dead months, recession of course did not help.

Should I have done things very differently professionally or was a wimp?

I am being treated by a Dr now.

Thanks

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Answers (1)

Merely Me, Health Guide

7/29/09 10:51am

Hi there

I think anyone who hears of a life changing diagnosis is going to need some time to take that in and re-adust. I don't know if there can ever be any set time table for this readjustment.

In my opinion...I think that what has passed is passed...don't dwell on "losing" three months...don't beat yourself up for it....but do move forward now with the goals that you have for your life. You are still the same person you were before the diagnosis and label. You still have the same strengths...focus on those strengths.

I am glad you are seeing a doctor and I would also recommend joining a support group. You can find out how others who are facing a similar diagnosis...are coping and managing the issues which come with this disorder.

You are going to make it. Just take things one step...one day at a time.

Thank you for reaching out here. It would be wonderful if you could write a sharepost sometime about your experience of getting diagnosed. There are so many others who would benefit from hearing your honest story.

ADDbuster

7/29/09 11:26am

Thanks for your comment, I guess it is the way to go. Actually during those months I got convinved that emplyoment is not for me in the long run and worked on starting my own business and it looks like it could work out.

I am starting next week full time and see how things evolve. Actually it is a small device I thought about, people with orientation problems Autism included can use including kids to make sure they are not lost. I have a son and my wife thinks it's a great idea.

I will put an article in the posts soon, detailing how i got diagnosed. I think it is an amazing but sad story that lead to it. Failures can lead to life savings discoveries that i can say for sure even though i thought it was something that only happens to others. Hope your son gets better and hope you always have the courage to go on.

I know it is tough, one of the toughest things a human can experience so I admire all parents with special needs kids. Even though it has no place here, but I have to say you are very pretty woman (unless photoshop is in action :).

Take care and please share anything new and if you need people with ADHD for any reference in your writings please let me know....

Merely Me, Health Guide

7/29/09 11:31am

What a lovely response!

Thank you so much! I do like your idea about that device. I say keep brainstorming about ideas that you might wish to pursue.

I absolutely will keep you in mind for any future writings or interviews...I am always happy to receive that offer. And yes...please do share your story...I for one want to hear it!

I hope you have a great day today...thanks for participating on this site.

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