I have 2 grandsons 13&15. About 10 years ago custody was granted to my son based on her lack of parenting skills. She did have visitation rights. Three years ago, she obtained joint custody, and are with her every other week. She has never had anykind of bond with the youngest, treats him badly. Since diagnosis of ADHD and on meds, the problems are still there. With the help of a psychiatrist he is now medicated for his anger and depression. This kid is a zombie, but somewhat manageable by mom. He had gone to some therapy but mom doesn't see a need anymore. She now lives with boyfriend and this child is made to be the butt of jokes and putdowns by mom,boyfriend, and brother. The older boy has carte blanche in her house, but the younger one cannot touch anything or he will break it. I am thankful my grandson confides in me. I have told my son, he doesn't believe it because the child has not come to him. What can I do to help?
Q: As a grandmother I have watched my grandson, age 13 struggle with ADHD all of his life.
Lyn
Thank you for your question and welcome to ADHDCentral.com.
It sounds as if you are helping your grandson, just by being there for him and listening. However, you may want to consider asking your grandson if, together, you can talk to his father about the situation at his mother's house. Maybe your grandson will feel more comfortable talking if you are with him and he knows there is someone that will believe him and be on his side during the conversation.
Eileen
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