The situation is very much out of control, my son is abused by his friends at school they fool him and hide his belongins, in home his sutuation is not any better, he argues a lot frecuently with his mom, they argue until the point that they said very hurtful things or hit each other, when I get involve to help with the conflict my wife turns to me and make it look like everything is my fault, I have read and keep reading a lot about how to interact with ADD'rs I very much can put our son under control but my bigger problem is making my wife understand that part of the conflict is created because the way she approches and talks to our son. We were working in a reserch with OHSU, recently our conselour gave us a survey that was kept in secret by my wife, when we had our meeting she was very proud with the answers that she provided to the survey, but after our conselour read then he asked my if I know about the questionare and I said no, then he told my wife that her answers where extremely negative, he said that he does not sees my like the person she was discribing, since then we have not seen our conselour, Every day she tells my how stupid, ignorant and inferior I am, but reallity is I am not any of these, I don consider my self to be perfect, but I am a hard working, responsible, positive, caring and loving person. Our situation is so bad that what I am looking for is legal advise, I am thinking in separation but will prefer to have full custody of my son and daughter becuase I think their life will be less estreesed. Please help!! It may help to let you know that we are a bicultural couple, I am from Mexico my wife is from USD we have been married for 15 years.