Saturday 9/13/08     Hi Olfoldor, my name is Heather, I'm a single mom.  I  have a son who will turn 10 on 12/3/08 who has ADHD w/many behavioral & aggression issues (he has never hit me in all of his rages), he takes 3 different meds (Ritalin, Clondine & Strattera) to help him control his ADHD, behavioral & aggression issues.  I myself was diagnosed last Aug. '07 w/low grade ADD, I wouldn't be on any meds, but the Psychologist (we started seeing the Psychologist in Jan. of '07) suggested I be put on a mediciine, cause it just might help me deal w/my son & his issues better.  My son & I where just like your wife & son, but in last Oct. '07, I called the Psychologist that my son & I would see once a mnth for family sessions & told him that something gotta give cause I was about to snap.  He told me that he would see what he could do, we set up a one on one session, but he said that if he was able to get me in sooner then he would.  Well I had my first one on one session w/him on Oct. 1st '07 (which he got me in sooner) & now that I see him once a mnth for one on one sessions my son & I still argue alot sometimes, but not as bad as we used to.  Back to the question you asked about, have you yourself tried to have one on one sessions w/the counselor that you & your wife would see as a couple/family.  Ever since I started seeing the counselor/Psychologist by myself once a mnth for one on one sessions it's helped me alot more to be able to deal w/my son & his ADHD issues he has.  My son sees him by himself every other mnth or sometimes we have a family session instead of my son seeing him by himself.  Let us know if anything you tried has worked or not, I hope you at least give it a try w/one on one sessions w/the counselor that you & your wife see as a couple/family if your child/ren come with to the sessions.  Take Care, Heather & Kaleb (my son's name is Kaleb)