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Q: My 12 year old son has been having sexual relations with his ten year old sister. He is diagnosed ADHD both are adopted. We have six children altogether two being younger than them.

I could put up with their lying, stealing, physical abuse, etc. I could put up with people reporting us to CPS thinking that we're the porblem. But this has hit the boundary, I can simply not go any further. They both know that what they are doing is wrong, but say "they will do it again." Especially the girl. I have a three year old that absolutely adores them and would do anything for them or with them, I can no longer think of their needs and the fact that they are special. My three year old shes special too, gift from God, I'm not willing any longer to go through this craziness with my adopted two. I now have to focus my attention on the safety of my two younger children. I cry when I read some of these posts because, these two have come so far, it almost seemed that things were beginning to look brighter. We have all sacrificed so much for them and each other. I am torn, because regardless of whether they could be helped, there is no way, I can see the two of being together in the same house. In all my wildest dreams, I would never think that they would do this.
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Eileen Bailey, Health Guide
1/18/11 9:48pm

I am sorry for what you are going through. I cannot imagine how you must feel or the anger/disappointment/hurt/worry you must be going through. It is obvious from your post that you love your children very much and have tried very hard to help them.

 

I have to tell you, I haven't the slightest idea what to tell you to do. The obvious would be that they need help, but there is the problem they have no intention of stopping. How then, do you keep them in the same home. It is impossible to watch them every second of every day.

 

I would suggest contacting a local social worker and talking about what options may be available to you.

 

Please post again and tell me how you are doing.

 

Eileen

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By instinct— Last Modified: 04/30/12, First Published: 01/18/11