ADHD Question of the Week

Please bare with me, and my response , I have to explain a little before i share lol....

(He/my husband yrs overal together is 9yrs) He is very undecided if he can handle my adhd,, He just said last night how i make things hard. His reasons are my 3adult children moved out and only have baby at home 14yr old. We moved here back in nov. and i was nervous(even though its our  first house bought) i started with panic attacks and stay in confusion since my wreck 2yrs ago and since move. I was mis diagnoised with bipolar till now and having to struggling but it makes more since than bipolar.  

 Trying to find ways to explain adhd.  We stay in separte rooms mostly and asks me not to bother him, it just feels shitty... the only thing helping me is woman with adhd book (Sara Solden Ms LMFT)...........Awsome Book... I'll be 40yrs old in exactly one week and its the first book i ever read complitly and referance back to it.  I have important facts highlighted and when in trouble i read and sometimes share page or sentence with husband and family.  Its better than me explaining, its to the point for myself and family.  We joke that she secretly had me followed thru-out life and wrote this book.  YESSSSS its that right own and easy to understand (well is for me)