If anyone understands it is a parent that is already going through it right, hang in there my son is going to be 5 soon and that all sounds like stuff that ive went through if things get to bad and u are in the state of ohio akron childrens hospital is one of the only places that will help u figure out what is actually going on. They have awsome doctors that will sit down with you now to help instead of making you wait until they start school good luck i hope everything works out

Another resource you may want to look into is your local school system.  When my son started pre-school the folks from the local schools evaluated him.  They also had a pre-school that he could have attended and gotten the help he needed.  I know when you're in the middle of it it's hard to see a way out, just remember to breathe, it can get better.