Hello there   Was your son officially diagnosed with ADHD?    Your son may very well be gifted in his passions and talents.  That word is loaded one because it can mean so many different things.  An IQ score is only one way to assess a child's gifts.    However...regardless if your son is gifted or not, he still has some challenges he must face.  And it sounds like these challenges include some behavioral issues.   That may be your primary focus right now.  How does he fare academically?    It really doesn't matter how you did as a child or your husband or even your son's siblings.  Your son is unique and is a separate person.  He may not walk in your footsteps.  But it is important to give him every chance to develop to his full potential.    What criteria does the school use for their gifted program?  I assume that academic achievement is also part of the criteria?  Or other test scores?  Would there ever be a chance he could be in some accelerated program in the future?    Let us know what happens.  I think you should continue to foster his talents and passions the best way you can.  The main thing is that he is able to learn in whatever environment he is in.    Thank you for your question!