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I have a daughter that is exactly like you are P/t job, 2 kids, same feelings )! Although, I offer to help her and maintain things once or twice a week she still will not let me (due to me not being in good health). When I visit I do anyway. I love her for that but she has my 2 granddaughters and I can't stand to have them live this way (but I do understand her problems).The advice I had for her is to hire someone 2 times a week. Just to get caught up on laundry, dishes, bathrooms and most of all to clean out the refrigerator. Then let her do the rest. I would tell your husband that if there is a problem hiring someone then I would suggest that he splits the chores with you. Also, let him know that by you not being able to get things done it does make you WORSE. I have seen my Daughter go through horable depression, anxiety, and being tremendously overwhelmed - how good is that for anyone in the house? If you have the money, HIRE someone PLEASE!!!!!!!!! it will start to make you feel better and eventually your mind will work out a schedule and you will start to feel much better. You may at first have different feelings about someone doing this for you - do not feel guilty you are not alone. If you can get a family member or friend that you are close to help that might  be better at first.