My son has tics and compulsions and a mood disorder which may be aspergers and adhd

Thanks for your understanding. After a couple disaster days of hyperness and anger on klonipin we are going to do the prozac 5 mg a day with the tennex and risperdal. The prozac takes longer to work which is why they wanted to do the klonipin first. He is so mean to his sisters especially the two year old. He likes to annoy them all and make them yell. He loves to irritate us all. He is oppositional and makes loud noises. I feel my nerves are being shot. I am short with everyone in the house. Having to yell constantly. It is very hard. I have four kids and they are being brought up by such a stressed out mom.

I just hope the new meds work. All my kids are suffering from his negative attention he is seeking. It is very hard to ignore the behaviors when they are so annoying and done with deliberance. My oldest is 13 and is really withdrawing from me because of he stuff she sees going on. We saw a psychologist who wanted me to give her a break from the house since she was unable to ignore my son's actions. She seems to like to confront him and this makes him worse. I can't see what good would come out of sending my 13 yr old away.  Therapist are hard to find who know how to deal with aspergers and are on our insurance. The one we are seeing was  the only one with ASD experience on our list and I have to drive an hour to her. She seems confused to me. One week she suggests one thing and then another the next week. Like week to week she can't remember what we were doing ignore or show him who is the boss. We are starting social group next week with another psych who is an hour away each direction. Maybe that will help him talk nicer to people?

Funny thing the school sees nothing of this. They see him as ADHD with fine motor delays. He does not act up there. He never gets mad and deosn't show his social issues. I find it hard to believe but I hear he same story every year. However, he does talk well to adults but I see it as very hyperfocused to his likes.

There is so much here to deal with meds, Dr's family and his behaviors and then school. I am so tired! How do you find the strength to continue to fight? I am feeling burned out.

Hi Michele!

So sorry for taking some time to respond.

First of all HUGS!  (((Michele)))

I hear you.  It is very hard and it is is extremely difficult to find someone who understands what you are going through and who can help.  My son has autism and we went through tons of professionals...psychologists, speech therapists, teachers, OT's doctors...you name it.  When my son was little he loved to turn off and on lights and slam doors for a good part of the day.  He would even come into our bedroom in the middle of the night and turn on and off our lights!  When we told this to the psychologist she recommended that we make a "learning experience" out of this and teach him the words "on" and "off."  I invited her to take my child overnight so she could teach him this and not sleep!  lol 

So just told you that story (I have many!) to say to you...you are not alone. 

Unless the person is living with your child it is really hard for them to really know what is going on and what it is like for you and your family. 

I am hoping that the med change helps first of all.

I am interested in the fact that your son is not doing these things at school.  This is actually a common experience.  Many kids on the autism spectrum will be great at school and then fall apart at home.  I suspect part of the reason is he feels more comfortable to release all that stress at home.  And too...you can be super structured at home all the time.  I know from my experience with my son that...some extra structure at home can help a lot.  There is comfort in structure...as in a schedule.

Please do hang in there and...I will do my best to give you support and any information you might need.

Thank you so much for sharing your experience here.