why do i feel so stupid with adhd? why do i feel like an outcast in my family with it? is that normal?
I'm so sorry you are feeling this way. Sadly, many have similar experiences, especially if their ADHD isn't being adequately treated and if they aren't getting the emotional, educational and other support they so badly need.
People with ADHD are no less intelligent than the general population, yet many feel otherwise. Years of struggling with things that others find easier to manage can take a toll! For example, constantly forgetting things can affect school and work performance and interpersonal relationships. Procrastinating can do the same, as can impulsivity and many other behaviors often seen with ADHD.
If you're feeling like an outcast in your family, chances are they don't have a solid understanding of ADHD. I can't tell how old you are from your note, but I would suggest that you first make sure that you are getting all the help you can for your ADHD: counseling, meds if indicated, school and/or work accommodations, and even ADD coaching.
With the help of a counselor/therapist, you could then educate your family as to why you struggle and work with them on improving your relationship.
There are many resources out there to help you, but I think that getting some counseling to help you with your self-esteem could do wonders!
Hope this helps-