Thanks for your reply; however, he is now out of school and pursuing a GED this coming Saturday.  He took two ACT's and we are awaiting results of the second.  He will not be able to graduate with his class because he got into trouble and kicked out until second semester of 2012, so therefore he will get his GED.  He still wants to go to college probably at a local one.  He didn't get help from school because they didn't know what they could do for him.  I went in for two IEP meetings to no avail.  I did take a NAMI class at Rolla Hosiptal and that was well worth my time.  I wish I could find the help that I need from schools and theripist with my insurance.  I think the doctor thing goes without saying, but it would be nice to see twice exceptional students go through their school years successfully.

I agree! the system seems to have failed him, and I think, while this is my son's 3rd school in a few years, we have to keep trying things until we get something that works. Have you seen the Total Transformation program? you can buy it on the internet, it has a lot of great answers. My husband thinks the best thing for our son is to do what he did (also ADD) and graduate early, go into the Marines, learn discipline, honor, etc...then go to college when he's older and can appreciate it with his life in order...something to consider! Best of luck to you- praying for your family!

Thank you for your quick response.  I will try looking into Total Transformation program on the internet.  I've looked into so many programs, during all these years and some look very doable, but I've always hit a roadblock.  My son has accomplished a lot for a young person too, not everything is bad or useless and he still has his self esteem in tact (he's a trooper).  Your husband's answer is everyman's answer and while I consider it's merits like: the maturing thing, my son isn't the army/navy/marines kind of guy; however, I do believe he could be a strategic person, maybe one in Special OPS, but he would have to prove himself in basic training to get there and that's what he falls short with atheletic prowlness.  I believe that my son need's help to organize and manage his school endeavors and if he is challanged enough could be quite successful.  I will pray also for your family.