Hi Tara: I am not a physician, but can tell you the reason your doctor doesn't want to give you a traditional medication for your ADHD is because stimulants will trigger manic episodes and rage in the Bipolar patient that can lead to hospitalization or worse. To cause that in you would be unethical for your doctor. He took an oath not to harm you and knows that it would. You can always find a doctor who will give you what you want, but remember you would do so at your own risk. Your mother was correct in understanding that people "outgrow" attention problems as they mature. That is not to say that it goes away, but that adults learn to cope with the problem. You may want to find a professional in your area who can help you with attention, organizational skills and coping strategies for your ADHD. You can locate one at Psychology Today. Alternative treatment, that is non-medication treatment is also available through Neurofeedback.   Best of luck, Dr. Diana Walcutt