I hate the fact that I have struggled so many years not knowing what has been going on with me.  I have a son and grandchildren with adhd.  but Im more concerned is my husband. He doesnt not know how to talk to me without me feeling hurt emotionaly or more fustrated about my condtion.   sometimes i want to leave and not come back home.  I wish he would just undestand that this is a struggle how do I help him to help me?

my husband has been married twice before me. his first marriage lasted 16 years then she left. the second marriage lasted 1 month. he does have a temper and he does explode and hits the walls and floors and begins to thrwo things at me. he does not like it when i dont respond to his anger and get into a fight with him. I have leanred to just stay calm and keep my mouth shut. then he later tells me that loves me and to please forgive him. when he says he is gonna move out ..i roll over and go to bed. Im not going to stoop to his level knowing that I have to take care of me and my teenage daughter and son. I feel like he needs help and Im getting the help with my ADHD and Bi polar.