What can we do about my childs behavior? everyday we go through the same routine of bad behavior

Thank you for your question. I am so sorry that you are going through such a hard time. I know it is difficult for you to just get up every morning and wonder what the day is going to hold for you. When our children are born, we hold them in our arms and have such high hopes and it is so very, very difficult when our children have problems and we just don't know what to do. I know that you are frustrated.

I do not have experience with programs such as Total Transformation or the Out of Control Child but wonder if you have tried these. I would very much like to hear if you have tried them and what you thought of these programs.

You can find additional information:

Oppositional Defiance Disorder Resource Center

Oppositional Defiant Disorder

The Out of Control Child

I am not a medical professional and cannot give you medical advice, however, many times when someone is not responding to treatment, it is helpful to start at the beginning and have a complete evaluation done to make sure you are working with an accurate diagnosis. It sounds like you have done that, since your child was hospitalized but you may want to start again, seeing if you can find a psychiatrist that will begin again and work with you on making sure you have a diagnosis and working with a medical doctor to be sure there is no underlying medical reason for your daughter's behaviors.

Although not medically backed, I also found, through my own experience, that certain foods caused my son's behaviors to be worse. In particular, red dye (most doctors will disagree with me). I removed all foods containing red dye from his diet. This was difficult and food shopping took additional time and care, but there was a definate difference in his behaviors. When he had something with red dye, he would act angry and impulsive. This usually started several days after and lasted for several days. Then it would go away. If you try this, give it at least 30 days without anything containing red. You have to read labels carefully as many food contain red dye.

Please let me know how things are going and know that you can come to this site and vent your frustrations. I hope you have somewhere you can go to get support for you, that is so important.

Eileen

Thank you for your question. I am so sorry that you are going through such a hard time. I know it is difficult for you to just get up every morning and wonder what the day is going to hold for you. When our children are born, we hold them in our arms and have such high hopes and it is so very, very difficult when our children have problems and we just don't know what to do. I know that you are frustrated.

I do not have experience with programs such as Total Transformation or the Out of Control Child but wonder if you have tried these. I would very much like to hear if you have tried them and what you thought of these programs.

You can find additional information:

Oppositional Defiance Disorder Resource Center

Oppositional Defiant Disorder

The Out of Control Child

I am not a medical professional and cannot give you medical advice, however, many times when someone is not responding to treatment, it is helpful to start at the beginning and have a complete evaluation done to make sure you are working with an accurate diagnosis. It sounds like you have done that, since your child was hospitalized but you may want to start again, seeing if you can find a psychiatrist that will begin again and work with you on making sure you have a diagnosis and working with a medical doctor to be sure there is no underlying medical reason for your daughter's behaviors.

Although not medically backed, I also found, through my own experience, that certain foods caused my son's behaviors to be worse. In particular, red dye (most doctors will disagree with me). I removed all foods containing red dye from his diet. This was difficult and food shopping took additional time and care, but there was a definate difference in his behaviors. When he had something with red dye, he would act angry and impulsive. This usually started several days after and lasted for several days. Then it would go away. If you try this, give it at least 30 days without anything containing red. You have to read labels carefully as many food contain red dye.

Please let me know how things are going and know that you can come to this site and vent your frustrations. I hope you have somewhere you can go to get support for you, that is so important.

Eileen

Thank you for your question. I am so sorry that you are going through such a hard time. I know it is difficult for you to just get up every morning and wonder what the day is going to hold for you. When our children are born, we hold them in our arms and have such high hopes and it is so very, very difficult when our children have problems and we just don't know what to do. I know that you are frustrated.

I do not have experience with programs such as Total Transformation or the Out of Control Child but wonder if you have tried these. I would very much like to hear if you have tried them and what you thought of these programs.

You can find additional information:

Oppositional Defiance Disorder Resource Center

Oppositional Defiant Disorder

The Out of Control Child

I am not a medical professional and cannot give you medical advice, however, many times when someone is not responding to treatment, it is helpful to start at the beginning and have a complete evaluation done to make sure you are working with an accurate diagnosis. It sounds like you have done that, since your child was hospitalized but you may want to start again, seeing if you can find a psychiatrist that will begin again and work with you on making sure you have a diagnosis and working with a medical doctor to be sure there is no underlying medical reason for your daughter's behaviors.

Although not medically backed, I also found, through my own experience, that certain foods caused my son's behaviors to be worse. In particular, red dye (most doctors will disagree with me). I removed all foods containing red dye from his diet. This was difficult and food shopping took additional time and care, but there was a definate difference in his behaviors. When he had something with red dye, he would act angry and impulsive. This usually started several days after and lasted for several days. Then it would go away. If you try this, give it at least 30 days without anything containing red. You have to read labels carefully as many food contain red dye.

Please let me know how things are going and know that you can come to this site and vent your frustrations. I hope you have somewhere you can go to get support for you, that is so important.

Eileen

maybe she feeds on the fighting. my daughter does. if we are fighting she is happy. it's because she is in controll of everything that is happening. 1st. pick the battles most important to you. like is it more important to scream and fight over the food not being put away for 1/2 hr or so ,( when you know it wont change anything ) or just say you have 10 min. to put it away, if you don't have it done by then . then maybe your not responsible enough to chose what you want to eat, so i'll have to make you your food but you get no choice on what you will get. then walk away... dont yell. no matter what do not yell back at her, thats what she wants. just walk away. but stick to whatever you have said you would do in lue of her not listening. walk away from all yelling , do not even respond until she has calmed down.