Greg

Thank you for your question and welcome to ADHDCentral.com.

I am not a medical professional and would not be able to give you medical advice.

I can tell you that most of the parents of teens/young adults with ADHD will understand your situation and your frustration. Raising a teen is hard, raising a teen with ADHD is even harder.

I previously spoke with Dr. Ari Tuckman, a psychologist who works extensively with teens with ADHD about this subject. See:Parenting Teens and Young Adults with ADHD - A Discussion with Dr. Ari Tuckman

Dr. Tuckman offers some great suggestions and insights, such as, "All decisions have consequences. Some decisions will create a harder situation than anticipated and teens with ADHD must learn through the pain of poor decisions. While it is hard for a parent to sit idly by and watch their child learn through pain, it is exactly this type of experience that will help them learn the lessons needed to navigate adulthood. Telling them about the pain they may experience is not enough; some teens and young adults with ADHD must feel the pain and learn life lessons the hard way. It is important for parents to let go enough to allow their children to experience the pain."

A few other posts you may want to look at include:

The Fine Art of Raising a Teen With ADHD

When Teens With ADHD Are Defiant

I hope this helps. Please check back and let me know how you are doing.

Eileen