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Oh my gosh, reading your story is like reading about my life with my son.  Soooooo much the same!  I know how irritating they can be!  My son interrupts me all the time, would talk constantly if I weren't always telling him to be quiet.  I want to be a good parent as I am sure you do too.  I don't know how you do it as a single parent?  My husband does really well with him.  He acts like a different kid when my husband is around because he doesn't tollerate my sons games.  Which is great.  But this also shows that with consistency, kids with ADHD do respond to discipline.  My husband and I have a little yellow plastic rod we call the "switch".  Every time our son doesn't listen, which is often, very often, he gets the "switch" on his rear.  We use is so as not to have to spank, since that can cause physical damage.  We don't use it harshly or out of anger because then you lose your power, but just matter of factly and immediately.  Just a little sting on his rear to drive our point home.  THis has been pretty effective.  But you have to be consistant and patient.  Don't feel guilty and not do it.  You are his mother not his best friend.  It is your job to raise your son to be a good person (Godly) for me, but I don't know if you are a believer.  I was a single mother with my son before I met my husband and i know about guilt.  ANyway, if you have insurance, I highly recommend you seek out proffessionals who can help you.  Psychologists, etc.  Also organization is great.  I have a chore chart that colton can check off his chores when done and he gets paid .25 for each chore.  I also have a daily schedule which helps a lot.  ADHD kids do better which a routine.  Because they bounce around so much in their head they need as much help as they can get remembering things.  A schedule helps that and YOU when your son says, "can i have a snack?"  then you can say go look at the schedule and tell me when snack time is.  That way it is the same every day and you both know what to expect.  THe biggest thing with Colton is that when he gets into those weird moods that I can't stand being around him, I will just say, please go to your room until you can be pleasant to be around, because you are really annoying me with that behavior.  I hope this helps.  I have other tricks I use, but I don't want to go on and on if this is all you want or need. So I wish you the best!  Parenting is hard work!  Take care of you too!!!!   Be Blessed, Danelle