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I don't think I had as many challenges with my son at that age as you do. But I can definitely relate to many things you spoke about. You really, really need some support, it might be helpful to network with other parents that have ADHD kids. It is hard to get this started though, because how does one approach other parents without disclosing too much or intruding on privacy or whatever?? Yeessss, I had days I wanted to pick him up from day care, afterschool care, camps, etc,  as late as possible, just before closing. And when I had time off, I would still utilize the daycare, and I did so, feeling guilty.....thinking all the other moms I knew or worked with or whatever, would cherish having some time one on one with their kid, but not me. I enjoyed the peace and quiet. You said, you are a single parent, that makes it even harder. Tae kwon do or karate or other martial arts are very good for lots of kids with ADHD, keep him going. Lots of routine and structure, cannot say enough about how these help. I could go on and on, but cannot write a book. You might consider cub scouts too. Whem my son was in scouts, there were times more moms were there, other times more dads. I found that there were some dads that really worked well with my son.... and also I might add, that there are a lot of boys in scouts that have ADHD/ADD. The down side (or maybe not a down side for some) is that with scouting at the ages of 6 to about 10, a parent or can be a grandparent or uncle/aunt usually has to be at a lot of the events. Parents were  always reminded that "BSA does not mean Baby Sitters of America." But on the flip side I found that some of the den mothers or den fathers were more supportive to a single parent in terms of  "excusing" them from as much attendance/participation at events and actually helped made sure that that boy did not miss things/events or get left behind on activities when a single parent just unable to be there, due to good reasons like having to work or whatever. Trust me though, when I say there is a lot of ADD/ADHD scouts. And you will find there is at least a few scout/den leaders that have personal experience with it. Again, the down side for you is it may require more of your time that you don't have anymore to give.  Lastly, I must recommend that you have some down time for yourself, I know it is easier said than done, but it will help you de-stress and rejuvenate. And when you feel fresher, you will deal better with him. My son is now 16 and a half. They go from boys that are balls of energy to lazy, gaming, defiant, moody teenagers.  And don't know which is better or worse. But please, don't neglect yourself for all of his needs. Hope this helps.