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Saturday June 28th 2008,      Vanessa, Hi my name is Heather, I am also a single mom & have been ever since my son was born so I can completely relate to what u are going thru.  I have a 9 in half yr. old son who has ADHD as well & pretty much every behavioral, aggression & anxiety issue that can go along with it.  I can completely understand how u say that you can't take it anymore, there's alot of days that i feel the same way cause my son has an extremely abundance amount of energy mixed in w/all the behavioral & aggression issues.  He was also diagnosed w/ADHD when he was 4 yrs old but his behavior hadn't been too awful bad & neither was the aggression, then in December of 2006 his behavior & aggression did a 360 for the worse & we ended up starting to see a Psychologist in January of 2007 for every 2 week visits & have been seeing him ever since.  Then it went to once a mnth because we also changed from my sons Peds. Doc. prescribing his meds to seeing a Psychiatrist once a mnth to better moniter his meds.  In Aug. of 2007 I started taking Wellbutrin to help me deal w/my sons issues a little better & it's helped out alot.  Then in Oct. of 2007 I started seeing the same Psychologist on a once a mnth basis for one on ones cause I had just had it & I was about to loose my mind, so now my son only see's the him  every other mnth unless lately here he has had to see him once a mnth cause it spiraled again & I wanted to keep on top of things cause as u know as a single mom u have to keep on top of things otherwise they will spiral way out of control, he better now he only had to see him every mnth since March thru June 2008, he talks w/my son by themselves but he talks w/me for the 1st 10 mins. & then w/my son for 30 mins. & then finishes the last 10 mins of the session telling me what they had talked about.  We have never skipped a session w/him for either one of us.  I don't know if u & your son see one but if not u might want to try it out maybe for a few mnths & see if it helps, cause he has helped me alot w/dealing w/my sons issues associated w/his ADHD.  He also introduced me to the Love & Logic CD set called The Life Saver Kit (it has 6 CD's w/the set), that CD set has helped me alot also in dealing w/my son's behavioral & aggression issues.  The CD Set gives you ways & ideas to try for just about any situation that you come across in the home or out in the community, it also has some tricks of the trade for teachers.  My son started school back when he was 4 for 4 yr. old kindergarten (preschool) & has now just finished 3rd grade, he had been going ot the same school since he started preschool then this past May 1st 2008 I had to transfer him to a different school to finish out his 3rd grade yr of school, cause of a situation @ home.  The new school he went didn't even know how to handle him when he went out of control on one of his behavioral or aggression outburst & they had to call me 3 times to come & get him cause of it.  The other school where he had been going all along knew exactly how to handle him when he had one of his behavioral or aggression outburst, the Spec. Ed Teacher who was also the ED/BD Teacher would call me & leave me a voicemail on my cell phone telling me about his outburst & she would keep him @ school & in her room until she thought that he was okay to go back to the reg. classroom (my son was in all mainstream classes cause it's a small school there), she also sometimes called me & made him tell me that he was misbehaving & got into trouble depending on how bad the outburst was & if he wanted to talk w/me on the phone & I would always ask him Why are you not being have or listining to his teacher.  In Sept. of this year when school starts back up he will be going back to the school where he started when he was in preschool.  Well I hop to chat w/you again sometime, if you ever want to converse over email you can email me at my reg. email address which is heatherandk@hotmail.com, so that way we can still keep in touch w/each other & it won't be so public that way.  Well I hope I gave you some possible good advise.